Years ago I (43f) gifted one of my nieces one of my American girl dolls. She was 10 or 11 at the time and there weren’t any in the store that "looked like her" (brown hair brown eyes) so I gave her one of my old ones. Niece is now 22. My daughter is at the age where she’s interested in dolls so I was thinking of gifting her the ones I have in storage and I’m debating whether or not to ask my niece for the one I gave her. Husband thinks it’s reasonable since niece no longer uses it but other family says it was a gift and what if my niece wants it for her kids. WIBTA if I asked for it back?
edit: I should clarify that when I say dolls it’s not a whole ass collection. I guess I’m including the one I gave away. There’s one more sitting in storage at my parents place that I’m planning on giving for daughters birthday. At the time my mother was like "oh I bet Auntie So-and-so would be willing to share one of her dolls with you." It wasn’t a big deal at the time and it honestly still isn’t. I thought I might ask her if she’d be willing to part with it but if it’s a hard no then I’m okay with it. Niece and I are pretty close and I’d hate to ruin it
YWBTA, it’s already been gifted to your niece. It’s her property now, no longer yours
Well, perhaps the niece could then gift it to her cousin? Win-win. Niece looks good, daughter ‘gets’ a doll that used to belong to her mom (OP), and all three can share stories about it.
If tge person is now 22 it world be okay if u just ask hey do u have that doll I was wanting to pass it to x if ur okay with it
I don’t believe there’s any harm in politely asking if she’s willing to gift the doll to her little cousin, so long as you are genuinely fine with whatever answer you receive. Your daughter could always gift it back to her cousin’s children if they’re ever interested, too. NTA.
You can ask politely, explaining why and that you are ok with a “no”. Respectful but honest / open communication goes a long way to avoiding misunderstandings / conflict.
Ywbta if you ask for it back. You do not ask for gifts back.
YWBTA You can’t ask for it back. You could tell your niece that if she isn’t interested in keeping it, your daughter would probably love a gift from her of a doll you have both loved. But it’s hers now and it would be a gift from her.
Ywbta – why on earth would you ask for a gift back?? If i were your niece it would shatter my heart
YWBTA. Big time.
YWBTA. That’s hers now. You didn’t lend it to her you have it to her. She may want to pass it on herself.
You should consider going to target or looking on Ebay to find a doll for your daughter. Asking for gifts back is weird honestly. You COULD ask, she might be ready to part ways with it but it’s just weird in my opinion. Just get another doll.
YTA. Don’t ask for a gift back.
Yta, you’re not a kid either why do you have any?
If you have more in storage why even consider taking hers back??
Who takes a gift back?
I would just ask. “Hey, would you mind, my daughter is interested in dolls, and I know that I gave this to you, but would you mind if I asked for it back? If you don’t want to give it to me, that is okay.”
If you don’t get angry at not getting it back, NTA.