So long story short my mom went behind my back and suggested to my husband to rearrange my toddlers room.
Keep in mind I’m 38 weeks pregnant.
I hated the arrangement mainly because my kid loves having a ton of stuffed animals in her bed and the way the bed was arranged they kept falling off.
So finally I asked my husband “Why did you do this? I don’t understand why this took priority with the new baby coming.”
Especially since the furniture was mounted to the wall for safety and now the furniture needs remounted.
He told me my mom told him to do it and that I wanted it. I told him no and to put the bed up against the other wall.
Well my mom walks in and says “Why did you do this? I was going to buy her a nightstand there isn’t any room now.”
Of course did she ask anyone about the nightstand? No.
And basically I’m wondering if I should confront her about her sneaking around behind my back and lying to my husband.
Because she originally asked me about rearranging her room and I told her no, and then she snuck around and told my husband I wanted the room rearranged, and I thought he wanted it rearranged. Just to get her own way.
And now I’m 38 weeks pregnant with the dresser not mounted to the wall in my toddlers room.
She also moved my changing table without consulting me and I turned everything back around.
And no this isn’t the first time of her attempting to play my husband and I off each other to get her way, this is just the clearest example of it that I have, so there is a history of this behavior.
Tell your mom to stop interfering in stuff that has nothing to do with her, and agree with your husband that neither of you does anything on her say so without checking in with each other first
NTA
Holy crap! What a huge overstep!! Now that your husband knows that she will LIE you can embolden him to say, “That’s an interesting suggestion. I’ll just run it by OP first.” If that doesn’t do it, you can make sure she is only in approved areas of the house when you are present.
Yes, he now needs to say this every time.