My bf and I have been together for 1.5 months. He is 20, I am 37, and his mom is 45. I am meeting his mom for the first time this weekend and he wants me to tell her I am 25. He says I look 25 and that she might find it weird that I’m 37.
I am confused on if I should just go along with it or if I should instead tell her that I will tell her my age another time to avoid lying. WIBTA if I go along with it for now and then later tell her my real age?
YTA because why are you even dating somebody in their 20s while you’re almost pushing 40s. Not to mention, you only have a 5 year age gap with your boyfriend’s mom. Of course, she would be weirded out if she knew that her son was dating somebody her age.
… he’s too young for you. The fact that you are even considering luring about your age makes thing even more obvious.
Don’t lie to her. He may think you look 25 but she will know better. By the way I think you’re pervy just like I’d think a man was
Lmfao..
If you lie — YTA..
If you don’t lie — NTA
You better not lie to her because she probably knows your age..
He’s 20, he has no idea what different ages of adults look like.
And YTA for dating a 20 year old.
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Don’t lie.
Oh trust me, we all find it weird that you are 37 dating a 20 year old; whatever you say she is not going to believe you are 25.
If you have nothing to feel embarrassed about and everything is fine why lie? YWBTA
Why are you dating a 20 year old …. Your pushing 40 you already curtailing his life choices especially if he wants kids as he will have to work on your time line
He is young and asinine but you nearly middle aged woman who should know better than to date someone young enough to be your son and your only 5 years younger than his mum and now your ruminating about lying about your age
Btw just because the little boy says you look 25 doesn’t mean you actually do , not being mean but it’s reality as partners tend to compliment and be biased
You can’t lie to her. I mean, you can say words that are a lie, but your face will tell the truth.
When my son was 19 he brought home a girl he said was 29. When they arrived and I met her I took my son aside and “son, she is not 29”. Nope, she was 37! They got married and it did not last.
Ask yourself why you want to date a twenty year old. Really, sit in a quiet room, just you and your thoughts, and really think about it.
YTA
YTA for being a predator.
YTA for dating a 20 year old. He hasn’t even fully finished developing yet.
I’m a couple of years older than you, and young men are constantly saying I look younger- because they want the fantasy of dating an older woman. As that older woman, it’s my (and your) responsibility to say no. Gross.
I’m sure you are absolutely beautiful and look great for your age. But his 45 year old mom knows far better than her 20 year old son what 25 and 37 look like.
You’re not exactly advocating honesty either, though. “I’ll tell you my age another time”?? Ask yourself why you feel uncomfortable telling the truth about your age. Ask yourself what it is about dating someone barely out of childhood that appeals to you. Do some serious reflection here, this is a predatory relationship dynamic.
YTA
YTA. If you have to lie about your age then you clearly don’t feel comfortable with the age difference. There’s no reason for you to be dating a 20 year old anyway.