I (28m) am engaged to my fiancé (29m). He is part of a friend group mainly consisting of straight guys, which is definitely not my experience. For our bachelor parties next month, we are renting two cabins in the same area, one for each of our friend group, and plan on hanging out all together the last night of the long weekend. My group is a mixture of men and women, his feels like a frat house.
Anyway he and his best man Jay have been friends since they were like 5. Inseparable: hung out every day as kids, played sports in high school, roommates during and after college, rhe works. Jay and his wife regularly come to our place for drinks. Whenever they get tipsy my fiancé and Jay reminisce and one thing that comes up from time to time is that growing up (and even as adults frankly) they used to like to “pants” each other, or pull down the others’. I’m aware it’s juvenile. Apparently this started in middle school and was mainly a thing through college. They always end this reminiscing by Jay recalling how a night out after he got married (about five years ago) my fiancé pantsed Jay in the bar and always says he owes him one more time. Neither my fiancé or Jay seem embarrassed talking about this.
Anyway Jay texted me saying it would be wild if the night we all hang out at the bachelor weekend he should sneak me into the house early and have me pants my fiancé. He insists my fiancé will find it hilarious, and so will the other guys, as they are all in on the joke. I don’t at all see my fiancé being embarrassed, but is this a really low move? Maybe I’m overthinking. AITA?
Yes – don’t do it. It could go incredibly wrong
I wouldnt.. it was a them thing . To do the de-panting
YWBTA.
What a stupid idea.
YWBTA if you assault your fiance.
Why is everyone else in on the joke but unwilling to pull the prank themselves? Perhaps it’s because the prank isn’t on him, but rather on you because they know he’d react poorly?
nooo don’t do it
jay can pants him if he wants, but you defo shouldn’t.
I probably wouldn’t do it. It’s high risk, low reward.
NTA but don’t do this. It screams to me that you’re being set up for something. If Jay owes your fiance a prank, let him do it.
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Bad idea.
I think it would not be a good idea.
Adding something like this to the mix, right before your wedding- nope. I wouldn’t do it. Pants him some other time.
If you have to ask if you would be TA, AND it’s right before a wedding- YTA.
I mean, it might be fine and everyone would have fun with it, but before big events it’s usually best to avoid the possibility of an issue. And in my experience, best men do not always know what they are talking about.
Why do I feel like Jay is setting you up? Don’t do it. If Jay wants to, he can.
YTA if you do it.
It’s not your joke. It’s their joke. Don’t insert yourself, even if invited, if you have even the tiniest shred of doubt (which you do, because you’re here).
You’ve been given an opportunity for an epic prank.
(1) get fiancé in on the plan
(2) get custom boxers with Jay’s face on them
(3) talk Jay into pantsing your fiance at said party (“I brought it up as a joke and he thought it was funny,” etc)
(4) fiancé wears Jay-face boxers to party
Together you and your fiancé can pull off this epic uno reverse prank.