Hey guys, below is a copy of a Facebook post that I was considering making. The reason for the post is that my ex initially left 3 cats at my house, which I agreed to care for until she had a stable living situation. Eventually, she agreed to take two of them after she signed a lease. We were unable to get one of the cats into the cat carrier, so me ex accepted one cat along with almost all of the cat supplies. When we were able to get the other cat into her carrier, my ex stood me up when she was supposed to pick her up. I have received word from multiple people that she is actively trying to adopt more animals via social media. Below is what I was considering posting on social media.
"If [redacted] reaches out to any of you and expresses interest in adopting a pet, please know that she abandoned two cats at my house. There are a lot of details I’ll refrain from mentioning on this post, as we recently broke up and I don’t want this post to come across as emotionally charged, but I’ve been given word that she is actively seeking to adopt new pets after abandoning two cats at my house.
The cats are well taken care of and I don’t intend to try to rehome either of them. These two were under our care for almost 6 years and abandoning them would equate to downright cruelty."
I am posting here because while I am furious that she is looking for new pets, I would like to make this post for the sake of the animals and leave our personal issues out of it. WIBTA?
EDIT: corrected "ahe" to "she"
EDIT2: corrected "recieved" to "received," which is extremely embarrassing because I worked in the receiving department of a warehouse for a lil while 🤣
NTA
NTA- she’s being irresponsible, and doesn’t really deserve more pets. She can’t take care of the ones she has????
What really upsets me is that one of the cats was adopted almost 6 years ago when we got together, and the other is 14 years old and my ex bottle fed him when he was a baby. She asked if we could adopt him when her mom decided to get rid of him almost 5 years ago and there was no way I was gonna say no to that. Sorry for the long-winded response. The cats will be very well taken care of, they even sleep next to me each night now.
No it’s chill,
A diff pov tho, do you think she’s ditching the cats because they remind her of you?
Not that that’s good or better or anything. But it seems understandable
I sincerely doubt that, and I say that because she was their primary caregiver until she left, and it was her choice to leave. I do agree that it would be understandable if that was the case, and I appreciate you bringing that point up. However, she did agree to take two of them and stood me up after getting one. I thought she absolutely adored those cats, but now I’m thinking it was purely performative 😥
I hope your Wednesday evening is going better than mine! 🤣
NTA but I’m not sure a social post will be as effective as contacting local shelters to let them know she abandon 2 animals already. That’s something that should be on their radar.
Thank you for your reply! I have already contacted every shelter in our county and informed them of the situation, and I intend to contact shelters in nearby counties. My reason for wanting to post on my personal page is that my ex’s mother is banned from adopting from all local shelters, but has adopted animals privately, so I’m concerned that my ex will primarily focus on adopting from individuals rather than shelters.
They were very glad that I passed that information along to them. Thanks again for the reply.
Wait, her mother is banned from adopting at shelters? That’s… special and not in a good way. Post away. These people don’t deserve animals.
Edit: and so NTA!
Her mom found a baby kitten in a dumpster at the projects she lives in, bottle fed it, acted like it was her fucking pride and joy for a couple years, then rehomed her because of a minor issue. I guess the apple I thought I loved didn’t fall too far 🙄
EDIT: Also thank you for your response! I hope you are having a nice evening!
I don’t understand. How did all of the shelters learn that she’d rehomed a cat she found in a dumpster? Did she drop it off at one and they have some sort of joint database to ban people from adopting after they relinquish a pet?
Definitely NTA. I am not a psychologist but it seems to me that she’s trying to have a bunch of animals to cover up for something in her life. Which it wouldn’t be a horrible thing if she was indeed caring for all the animals she’d taken. I think you should go ahead with your post
Aren’t they your cats too?
Seems like some info is missing if you guys had these cats for 6 years.
She chose to adopt the cats and agreed that she would be financially responsible for them. I had other pets to care for at the time, and I paid the vast majority of the bills for the majority of the time we were together, so that is the agreement we came to. I even paid for surgery for one of the cats at one point. The two cats she left are being well taken care of. I love them and would never rehome them unless I was unable to care for them. She always insisted that if we didn’t work out, the cats would go with her.
There’s your info, nice attempt at a reach.
What’s with the attitude? Questions can be genuine… you are asking strangers if you’re an asshole.
If my husband and I broke up we would be fighting over the pets.
Thanks for clarifying. NTA (in regard to the cats).