I was a bully when I was in 3rd Grade. I gave this girl an embarrassing dare, and then told her if she didn’t give me brownies everyday i would tell people what she did. I revealed her crush, idek. I was just plain awful. She moved in 4th Grade. I don’t know how I could be so evil. I don’t know how, but I didn’t even realize I was a bully. This sounds awful, but I thought of it as a trade off… "I keep your secret you give me brownies… it’s even." I know I can never forgive myself, and I shouldn’t. I’m a 16 year old female right now, and I feel horrible.
I think about reaching out to her on social media all the time, but I’m worried that my apology will be out of selfish intent. Maybe it would be to relieve my conscience and bringing back those bad times for her would only negatively impact her… I really don’t want to do or say anything that could cause her any harm. Would I be an AH to reach out an apologise?
I would love it if my bully reached out to me to say “I didn’t realize it at the time, but I see now that I was cruel to you. I’m so sorry. I want you to know that I’m making conscious efforts to be better and never go back to who I was then.” Leave it simple, let them know you feel guilt, and that you won’t repeat the behavior. Don’t expect them to accept your apology or even acknowledge it tho.
As someone who was bullied… YWBTA. You’re doing it to make yourself feel better, bud. She might not ever even think of you or remember you.