So I (26F) have been through a lot this year and I was really looking forward to my birthday so I could have a weekend to myself (and maybe hang with my fiancé). The week I was planning on celebrating falls on the weekend my his sister graduates from college and the weekend of the party. I’m struggling with this because I live with him and his family they have a tendency to make a big deal out of certain things and I don’t want to offend them. I am not particularly close with his sister and I really don’t think she will care but I don’t know. I’m not sure what to do because I really need to take a full weekend to relax and I want to celebrate my birthday the way I want to. This is also being considered because my actual birthday is on a Monday and I CANNOT miss Monday’s at my job (along with not being rich enough to take another weekend off until well into the new year). I really don’t want to offend them and if you all think I will accept it and do something else.
EDIT I hope this doesn’t come across as disingenuous but I really appreciate the answers here and I think I should have a bigger a conversation with my fiancé. I’m gonna get over myself with this one and happily attend.