Background: I don’t live in my home country and my parents are visiting me. So I am 3 months post break-up. The relationship started while he was still living with his wife. He left her and told me he was going to divorce. (I know not they best situation but bear with) We moved in together and everything was good…
Eventually after 2 years he visited my home country and met my family. (Still married but was seeing a lawyer) After 3.5 years and no divorce we talked and he said I chose the wrong man and there’s no timeline set for the divorce (could be 3,4,5 years) so if I don’t want to wait then leave. So I left. I said I’m taking space but after 1 month he said he didn’t want to work it out.
So fast forward to my parents: they already had had plans to come for Christmas and pre break-up had planned to spend Christmas with my boyfriends family. So on arrival they started nagging me for his number saying they wanted to say sorry that they wanted to give the presents they got for Christmas etc. They left my city on a side trip for 3 weeks. Meaning My ex still had my stuff and was not letting me get it. My father was still asking me for my exs number saying he was getting pissed off, my dad then said my excuse is bullshit and he’s going to pick up his suitcase he left at mine and never speak to me again (yes because of a number)
after 3 months and my ex controlling access to my belongings I finally got my stuff back. So I wrote to my ex and he said I can give the number to my parents so I did.
My parents came back yesterday and pretend like they never said anything and so I tell them they can stay as long as we don’t talk about my ex. That was yesterday. Today they tell me they are going out for dinner with him. Am I crazy?
Wow—I would feel betrayed and unsupported. NTA
Tell them they can check into a hotel after dinner, they aren’t welcome if they feel so strongly about someone you are trying to distance yourself from.
Pack their stuff put it on the door stop and lock the door. They have chosen your ex who won’t get a divorce and strung you along for years over you.
YTA for letting them treat you this way
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You’re right
ESH
Don’t date married people, sound like you were a side chick
Throw the parents out ASAP
Before or after Christmas?
ESH
Okay. So your parents want to go visit NOT ur ex-boyfriend , Your ex affair partner because he was never more than a cheating married guy while you were the side chick.
No way
Essentially, yes.
This should be the title
What? This just hurt my brain. None of this makes sense. Why would your parents want to spend the holidays with his parents, if they only met once and you both broke up? Well, technically you couldn’t have broken up because HE WAS MARRIED. TBH, you all sound like trash.
My parents are going for a dinner with him. They arrived yesterday and the plan was for them to stay until after New Years….But I’m so annoyed I need my space immediately after Christmas.