I (33 f) have asked multiple times that my ex husband (32 m) ask his girlfriend to stop posting our kids on social media. Every ask has been met with lots of conflict and arguing. My favorite line is him claiming I’m being controlling. Here’s some back story for y’all we were together for 11 years married for 6 we have two kids together and he helps raise my oldest. We’ve been separated since last Halloween and divorced fully since May. Ex husband and his girlfriend have been together since February, she met my kids about 10 days after she met him and has been in their lives ever since. They live together and she seems to really love my kids. I don’t really have a problem with her except she continues to post my kids on social media with captions that make me and my family members extremely uncomfortable. I don’t post my kids on social media often, and when I do it’s a couple pictures and it’s private just fun updates for long distance family. She’s posting 60-70 pictures at a time and frequently, with captions like “our girls”. She also doesn’t like that I post about the things my ex husband did to me through our relationship so she has my Facebook blocked so most of these posts are being shown to me by close family and friends who see it and are uncomfortable. My ex husband thinks I’m just trying to be controlling and refuses to do anything about it. Am I the asshole for asking for these posts to be removed and for her to stop posting them???
NTA You’re not being controlling, you’re being a parent.
NTA. You have a right to protect your children’s digital privacy and set boundaries regarding their public image, especially with a new partner. Posting “our girls” and sharing dozens of photos after a few months is overstepping, and your concerns about safety and parental roles are valid, not “controlling.”
It isn’t appropriate for her to post pictures of your children. She isn’t their mother. That their own father doesn’t see the potential risks shows he is more concerned about keeping the new supply happier than protecting his children. But you already KNOW he has poor judgement. Anyone who introduces a new partner to their children after knowing that person a few weeks has exceptionally poor parental judgement.
NTA. It’s so dangerous to post children on social media.
NTA
Is quite risky to upload children in social media, because many predators are around. I highly recommend you don’t do it either
This is NOT about control, but about safety
There’s a new ad on Irish TV about the dangers of posting your kids online thats getting traction abroad:
https://youtu.be/kVzz8gTe7jM?si=ESoxg7Z-8y37OxuA
Its very powerful. You could show it to your ex as a reason why you don’t want photos of them up on social media.
Dunno if my link will work, but you can google “new ad warns parents not to overshare about kids online”. Persoanlly I think kids are little individual humans that have a right to their own privacy.
NTA
Talk to a family lawyer. Ask if there’s a possibility of adding a clause that his girlfriends may not post their children’s faces to social media as it is a safety concern.
That’s where you should start
Family court rarely makes one way street concessions for a parent. It’s far more likely none of them will be able post the kids. Or that the court will tell OP to kick rocks because she seems to have no issues using social media to trash her ex.
NTA for your request but I don’t think even a judge would grant your request. You both will have to stop posting or you will just waste your time. And you admitted to bashing the ex online, idk if it would work for you.
Your only option is a court order limiting pictures of minor children being posted on social media. Talk to your lawyer as its super dependent on location.
I don’t even post pictures of my OWN kids without their permission, let alone someone else’s. And calling a kid “ours” when you’ve only been dating someone for a few months is crazy.
NTA.
Honestly I would file an amendment in court that includes social media blackout for everyone. No one posts the children on social media, period. Get a family app where everyone can be part of the fun updates but they are not on social media for the world to see. In this day and age it’s a safety issue.
ESH it’s weird to make your failed relationship facebook’s business and she’s weird for posting your kids after being asked not to, you’re both too obsessed with social media though
I feel like some of these comments don’t understand how unsafe it is in this day and age to be posting THAT MANY photos of children that often. Pay attention to the save to like ratio of her posts. NTA imo