I am extremely conflicted on what to do here. I have a friend (15m) who I follow on Spotify. He has made some very concerning playlists on there recently with descriptions that are very sad. I want to reach out to see what’s going on, however I feel guilty because of the history of our friendship. I used to like him a lot and it has become a joke on the group chat, which I wish It hadn’t because I can tell it makes him very uncomfortable. I don’t like it either. he is in a serious relation ship and I apsolutly have no intention of undermining that. I don’t want her to think I’m trying to get any type of upper hand. Idk what to do. Should I reach out or no?
YWNBTA to reach out and be sure he’s mentally ok despite the history between you too.
i’d rather reach out to a friend i haven’t talked to in a while for whatever the reason than go to their funeral!
TYYYy!
Yeah, you should imo.
If those playlists are really that concerning that they’ve got you worried, then there’s no harm in checking.
Also, a good idea would be to also talk to the friend’s girlfriend, if you can, and explain the situation. Since you’ve mentioned their relationship is serious, there’s a chance that they’re close enough for him to open up to his partner.
Other than that I don’t see it as a romantic advance, reaching out to a friend because you’re worried.
YWNBTA.
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Why? I wanna know before I make a mistake
NTA
NTA. Maybe his relationship broke up and he’s in a bad way. When you’re depressed it’s reassuring to have a friend check in with you, even if you’re OK.
Check on him. YWNBTAH
Any fallout would be better than the regret if something terrible happens. Not through the group chat though.
YWNBTAH
“hey friend just checking in, how you doing?”
maybe he wants to talk, maybe he doesn’t, don’t make a huge deal out of it just knowing someone asked sometimes helps a lot.
if your gut tells you he needs help and is in a bad place you should reach out to him. hes probably crying out for someone like you to notice his pain and offer an helping hand or safe space to talk about his feelings. youll be a good friend
YWNBTA
Reach out to him privately-not in the group.
Having someone reach out and tell him they care could mean the difference in serious decision making.