For context, I am an incoming college freshman at a school super far away where I know nobody. Me and a girl in a similar situation decided to be roomates to avoid the stress of it all, and just to be done with the whole roomate search process. At the time, we both weren’t fully committed.
As of now, I am commited and she isn’t. We barely text and I feel like I know her less than I know people who I have casual conversation with in passing. I want to find a new roomate because the situation is really weighing on me but I don’t know how to bring it up or if I would be TAH. Lmk please !!!!
Why not talk to her about it first ?
Yeah, I think fairly basic communication alone would solve this issue one way or another.
I went to a university where I didn’t know a soul. I met my dorm roommate the day I moved in, although we had exchanged like one letter each (pre-tech days). At winter break, I moved in with a (new) friend named Carol and Carol’s roommate moved in with my former roommate. Roommates aren’t carved in stone, and people change.
Are you not starting school until August? That’s a long time from now, and it doesn’t really matter how much you two text this far out.
I don’t think you’d be an AH, but I think it’s a premature stance to take, especially since you don’t have a backup roomie in the wings.
At my college you pick your dorm and roomate super soon within the process, within the next 2 months
NAH it seems like you guys are just on different pages about communication, I think it’d be fine for you to let her know that for your own planning she either needs to commit soon or let you find a new roommate
NTA life’s to short to be unhappy.