My uncle died a few months ago, and because of that my Aunt keeps on coming over to our house. She has already moved into another home by herself but despite that she would come over every time my dad leaves for a business trip which is frequent. (I’m 16). Every time she comes over, she turns on all the lights in the house and turns up the TV to a loud volume until around 2:00 (which is when she sleeps), which made it hard to sleep. She also keeps trying to boss me around telling me what to do and what to eat and it’s super frustrating. She always makes a mess around the house and complains about everything. If I don’t do something for her she straight up would start begging me and if I still refused she just gets annoyed and angry. I don’t know if I’m in the wrong for not wanting her here because she is nice to me and I’ve known her since she was young. I haven’t told her about any of this yet because I don’t want to make her situation worse after her husband died as I understand it’s still hard for her.
Not enough information…I don’t understand. Your aunt is coming to her own house? What’s the problem.
Sorry I meant she keeps coming over to our house. She has a seperate house where she used to live with her husband (my uncle) but since then she’s moved into a smaller home after her husband died.
I think this is an issue where you need to talk to your parent(s). Tell them any issues you may have, in a respectful manner. After all, It’s their home.
INFO: have you talked to your dad about this?
No, I haven’t.
INFO: Does your dad invite her to come over when he’s on a business trip or does she just come on her own?
This reads like AI
INFO: Is this your parents’ home? Are you paying rent? If not, this is your parents’ home and they have the right to invite who they want over. Have you talked to your parents about your aunt and her behavior towards you? If not, you need to. They can then assist you in addressing your aunt.
Yes this is my parents home, but I’m paying a portion of the rent. I have a job. I didn’t talk to my dad about it yet because I’m afraid of how they would respond.
You are sixteen and your parents charge you rent? Why? Do they have financial issues?
Depending on the portion of rent you pay, you may have a right to your room as your living space, but that doesn’t give you legal rights over the household. If in the U.S., you are a minor and don’t really have any rights.
You need to sit down and have a respectful conversation with your dad. Let him know what is going on and ask for help in how to address it.
Where is you mother?
YTA. You’re young so some of this is just you don’t understand what she’s going through yet. And you won’t until you experience grief.
This is temporary, she’s adjusting and her entire life is changed, forever. Talk to your dad about setting boundaries. Wear earplugs or sleep headphones. Have some grace right now for her.
I would suggest beginning with a conversation with dad. Show some empathy for her loss while sharing the impact her visit(s) have on you and others. Good luck