So a little context. My roommate and I worked together at the same company for different departments for the last couple years. When I realized I was hemorrhaging money from ordering fast food all the time, I started looking for an apartment.
I eventually found a decently priced place and asked roommate if she wanted to move in because her living situation at the time was also kind of terrible.
I signed the lease but due to her past, she couldn’t be put on the lease. For a year, it was pretty okay until that past caught up with her. She went to jail and has currently been gone for over a month, and will be gone for who knows how long(two more months that I know of, potentially longer). I originally told her I wouldn’t be kicking her out becsuse I do care and also can’t really afford the place by myself but WIBTAH if when she comes home I give her a letter saying the reasons I need her to leave? Im in the middle of trying to get custody of my kids and in order to do so, I need my spare bedroom. And also I don’t really want to deal with the potential fallout of her going to jail again or something else related to her charges, especially if my kids are going to be here.
Please help
INFO: Is she paying for the room now?
Her parents said they’d cover her portion of the bills while she is gone but when they came to drop off the first part, they decided they only wanted to cover what would have been rent and that it didn’t make sense for them to pay since she wasnt staying here. Based on information I have about them, they probably won’t bring any more of the money and they’re also telling people that I begged them for it even tho theyre the ones who begged me to let her still live here even tho she went to jail. I never asked them for money. They offered it so I wouldn’t kick her out. I do plan on giving them their money back tho if she doesn’t end up coming back.
Edit: weird letter
Edit: also she has no job now, more than likely. Meaning unless her parents continue to pay for her, she can’t pay her bills anyway.
Why would u wait until she comes home to spring it on her
I have no way to contact her currently?
Pretty sure inmates are allowed phone calls
nah honestly, you’re not the asshole here. like, your priorities are straight, your kids come first, and she’s already putting you in a tough spot by being gone for who knows how long and having legal issues. a polite letter explaining your situation is fair, and it doesn’t mean you don’t care, it just means you gotta protect your life and your kids.
Yeah. When she first left, the plan wasn’t for the kids to come back this soon. But she only told me she had court before she went. Other than that, I had to find out sometime the next day what even happened to her…. And I’ve been trying to help but she’s frustrated because her friends didn’t show up for her. Even tho I put money on her books and also tried to figure out her own money so she could have some. But most of her accounts are overdue so I couldn’t borrow the money that she thought I’d be able to, and also why am I the one who has to figure this out? Why didn’t she figure any of that out BEFORE she went?
She’s not on the lease. So it’s completely up to you
INFO
>can’t really afford the place by myself … Im in the middle of trying to get custody of my kids and in order to do so, I need my spare bedroom
how does that work out, if you don’t have enough money for the whole place?
It definitly isn’t nice.
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Its a past felony drug charge.
NTA- you kids are what need to be your main priority and if she’s actually your friend she will understand that.
You WNBTAH as long as you give her notice. You should write her a letter explaining that as she is no longer paying you need the room. If you don’t have the address for her then send it care of her parents & ask them to forward it to her.