I have this friend I have know for a little over 8 years now. She has asked me for a bit to come down and visit so I finally had time off work and was able to fly down. I made sure the dates worked with her and everything and we hung out partially the first 2 days and it was nice for the most part. She told me she would be able to hangout everyday, but now has changed it to only about half the days as she is busy one the days (understandable) and stayed up too late the other days. She know the only reason I’m visiting is to hangout and actually see her, however is seems like she doesn’t really care. Just wondering what other people’s thoughts are if I cut my trip short early to fly home and enjoy the rest of my "vacation" I took from work at home instead of hoping the person I came to see wants to even hangout the rest of the time I’m here. Apologies for any mistyping and so on a bit drunk from feeling down and needing something to help.
NTA – I’ve been in this situation, you should leave. Just say something came up for work or you don’t feel well and leave. If you want to you can tell her why but I don’t care to get into it with people nowadays.
How many days are you staying and do you have any set plans for any of the days. You can go out on your own and explore the city.
Staying 8 days in total and I’m halfway through what I was originally planning on. I have a few plans for tomorrow, but I honestly hate doing things by myself which my friend also knows. Doing activities by myself is something I’ve always struggled with which makes me want to leave early. Fortunately I won’t be losing much money by leaving early so that’s nice.
If I were you, I’d go out n do things, explore the area. Chill with your friend when you can and if you need to take a step back then do so. YWBTA to yourself for not at least enjoying your vaca
NTA. It’s your time. Make up an excuse if you’re not enjoying yourself.
NTA. It’s your time off and if they’re not interested in spending time with you, there other things you could be doing. I do think you should have a conversation with this person and tell them how you’re feeling, they may be oblivious to it and have no idea they’re doing anything wrong.
NTA but you shouldn’t go home. You should make your own plans and make her jealous
NTA I’ve been in a similar situation but quite different where my friend (no longer a friend) had decided to go hangout with a girl but not quite girlfriend for more than half the time I was visiting. Good for him for wanting to get laid I guess. I just wasn’t going to waste my time waiting around for him to do all the things we had “planned”. Not to mention the blatant lies about him telling me he’s on his way when 3 hours later still no sign of him. Had my plane ticket moved up a day early to fly home.
NTA – Enjoy your vacation time however you want. If your friend isn’t as available as much as she thought or said she’d be and you have nothing else to stick around for, get outta there. You had some good times, it was worth it to go… just not worth it to stay.
8 days is too long for a visit
NAH.
Good on you for going for it, but even more than a date or two in such quick succession can be totally overwhelming.
She gave it a shot, but now she needs space. I don’t know if she will call you again, but the ball is in her court now either way.
Hopefully you booked a changeable fare. If not, find a hotel. Don’t be weird by forcing it. Be happy you went on an adventure.