I’d like to start with that me and my father don’t have a good relationship, I currently live with my parents and two months ago we had a massive argument which resulted in me stopping talking to him almost entirely and avoiding him whenever I could.
So yesterday was his birthday and I didn’t talk to him but still sang the birthday song with the family ang guests at the celebration.
When my mom asked me if I wished him a happy birthday in person I told her no and she told me I should have and it was bad of me to behave in such a way.
So am I the asshole?
Depends. Since we don’t know anything about the argument, or your age, or what the problem is in the relationship, it’s impossible to judge.
I’m 21 years old and my father is 45.As for the argument my father told me that If I don’t see the point in losing weight he doesn’t see the point of me attending art classes for which I’m paying with my own money
Why does it matter if he sees the point or not? You’re an adult, go to whatever classes you like.
Your parents are supporting you. Saying happy birthday harms you not one bit.
ESH, your father should not have said that, but it sounds like you’re being petulant.
For some reason he thinks I’m fat and he has been telling me hurtful things about it since I was little. My weight and gym attendance were the only topics he’s been talking to me about before the argument.
But aside from that,what does ESH stand for?
ESH means everyone sucks here. What he thinks about your weight or you class is not relevant to anything. He shouldn’t be saying those things, but it doesn’t affect your ability to go to the class, does it?
Since you’re grown, it would probably be best to be on your own and not be around this.
Thank you for the explanation
I do agree that it would be for the best if I move out, that’s why I’m saving up to do this asap)
Need more context on yours and your dad relationship. And why it’s rocky. Is it a normal family fight or?
Not enough info / more info required for this situation. I agree with the first commenter that ages and situation/context can help us offer a better/more fair judgement.
I’m 21 years old and my father is 45.As for the argument my father told me that If I don’t see the point in losing weight he doesn’t see the point of me attending art classes for which I’m paying with my own money
Saying things like “happy birthday,” even when you haven’t resolved the fight you had, can help open the lines of communication and lead to a resolution. But only you can decide if it’s worth it to make the effort.
Maybe YTA? You went to his birthday party and didn’t talk to him at all… seems kind of rude even if your reasons for not talking to him are valid- perhaps if that is how you feel you should not have gone to the party.
NAH. You should have, you’ll regret it. You always regret maintaining strife.
YTA / INFO – You’re an adult living with your parents. If you want to continue living with them and want a relationship with them in the future then it’s in your best interest to be polite at the very least. Living in a house their the occupants actively dislike and are rude to the others sucks. As an adult if you’re making the decisions to continue living with them then you’re accepting their terms and treatment. If you don’t like it i’d suggest starting to look into moving out