I’m not talking about the type of break ups that happen when the love just goes or the life styles clash or stuff like that. I’m talking about the type of break ups that happens because you finally realised how shit your partner treated you even if they were the ones that broke up with you.
I(F19) have recently been ‘Brocken up with’ by this dude (M22) I was in a situationship with (probably the best way to describe the relationship) and I’m struggling with anger and hatred at him and struggling to move on despite him having no idea how shit he he was.
It’s only been a few months but I’m still just as angry about it as I was before.
If anyone has any tips of advice on how to let the anger and sense of injustice go or how long it took you to get over yours, that would be great.
It’s important to realize that what you’re feeling and going through is normal and not to blame yourself for things you had no control over. It’s ok to be mad, frustrated, and upset. It’s part of the breakup process. Next should be acceptance, then healing. But sometimes, if you have trauma from the situation then it might take longer to heal.
You were in what you yourself describe as a situationship and you’re bent out of shape because it ended? That’s what it means to be in a situationship: you’re together until one of you decides something better has come along. Getting dumped is pretty standard.
You don’t say anything about why you’re angry or what he did that seems “shit” to you or how you were treated unjustly, so it’s hard to address whatever it is that’s bugging you. But in any case, he’s out of your life. Get him out of your head. Thinking about how badly you were treated does you zero good. Stop wallowing in self-pity and start working to get your thoughts on track. Mental discipline is a thing. It is work, but it pays well.
If you reach a point where you can think about this relationship and not just get all worked up emotionally, then it would be worth trying to figure out how you got yourself into such a mess. That can save you doing it all over again.
Some people will probably suggest therapy. That’s not my approach, but if it sounds better for you, go for it. The one thing I would not suggest is rebounding into a new relationship.