Hi,
my son is 11 old and in his friend circle they discoverd the anime "Demon Slayer" which has an age rating of 16 here in germany. His friends seems to have watched all the episodes/movies. I didn’t allow him to watch any episode because i find it way to brutal for his age.
He lives the most time with his mother (my ex wife) and visits me every other weekend. She isn’t that much involved in anime and asks me if it is ok if he would watch it with her together which i declined…. so naturally my son is pissed and find it "unfair" that he is the only one who can’t watch it…. so aita here?
Nta but why do you need us to tell you how to raise your child? Like you know you’re not the asshole, you’re parenting and that sometimes means saying no and upsetting a child. You didn’t really need others to tell you this.
I mean when I was in middle school I watched Black Butler and other animes that were of a similar nature. Do what you think is best, but will also say that he’ll probably watch it anyway.
YTA, she’s the other parent, he spends most of his time with her, she’s going to watch it with him.
YTA Let him watch the show with his mom. All you’re doing is causing your kid to resent you and causing him to be left out. Choose the hill you want to die on but don’t be surprised by the outcome. Also it’s a great show lol editing to add your son is 11, I can guarantee he seeing way worse things on the Internet these days than what he’s gonna see in demon slayer.
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Have you seen any of it? How much do you know about it other than the rating and genre??
Also, his mother is OK with watching it with him, but has deferred to you??? Is that normal with how you’ve been making parenting decisions since you split???
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I suspect once all the info is tallied I will vote not an a-hole, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you’re making the “right” choice… not every wrong choice is an a-hole move. It’s my experience with age ratings (your experience may be different as I have no knowledge of German ratings) that they’re overly cautious and I’m generally OK with my kids seeing stuff that’s out of their age range… to a point.
I’m very fortunate that my kids aren’t into violent anime or video games, yet.
she didn’t really ask for permission – more like my opinion on this matter. She has rules in her house, we have rules in our’s. We are divorced but have an child together, so we talk all the time
i watched the full series and in my opinion it is to brutal for kids this age
i would say nta because you are trying to shield him from content outside his age range, however he can lowkey watch it anyways even after you said otherwise
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So since Demon Slayer is allowed from 11 with parental supervision in Germany, is there a specific reason you prefer to be stricter than the guideline? Like, does he get nightmares or react strongly to violence? Or is it a general rule about action shows?
NTA; this question may be more appropriate for a parenting subreddit.
Parents need to be active in supervising what their children do. And if it’s your judgment that this anime series if too violent, so be it.
But I will admit to being surprised that your ex- asked for your permission to watch it together with him.
she didn’t really ask for permission – more like my opinion on this matter. She has rules in her house, we have rules in our’s. We are divorced but have an child together, so we talk all the time
YTA
what a way to alienate your child from his mates!
watch it with him if you’re that worried
YTA. My mum was like this and it didn’t do me any good. Being the only one I knew who hadn’t watched something was very frustrating. Try watching it with him and talking to him about it. He’ll probably just watch it at a friends anyway, but just not tell you about it. I get your concerns, but it will only teach him to hide some things from you.
NTA
But in my opinion overprotective of things you shouldn’t be.
NAH, but this is how you raise kids who learn to be sneaky and keep stuff from you. Do you really want that to happen over an anime? This isn’t the battle you wanna pick imo.