AITA for freaking out on wife and kids about not getting what I wanted for my birthday? I work hard all year and don’t ask for anything other than basic domestic chores be completed before I get home each day.
I feel like this was an elaborate attempt to rage bait me. (Mission Accomplished)
You going to say what they got you?
Info – literally any information at all
YTA
What do chores have to do with your birthday gifts?
Do you participate in the cleaning and maintenance of your home?
Why do you think your family is staging an “elaborate attempt to ragebait” you as opposed to some other more normal situation in which families don’t hate each other?
YTA Expcecting gifts.. especially specific gifts… makes you an AH.
You’re a grown-ass man on the bullet-train to 50, not a 6 yr old.
Freaking out about a birthday gift at 47? Yes, YTA.
So I could see both sides to be honest. It’s really shitty that they didn’t get you anything, and I know it probably makes you feel like they didn’t even think of you. To be honest, gifts or something that I give from the heart, and I won’t give them if I don’t feel like I can give a heartfelt gift. With that being said, sometimes it’s less insulting to get nothing at all than to get something that you don’t want. Wouldn’t you be more upset if they bought you a half ass gift and it was something that you couldn’t use, or didn’t even want? I mean, at least with this, they’re not trying to hide the fact that they’re being assholes, if they were to have gotten you a gift that were pointless, then it would be more insulting because they would just be trying to cover up the fact that they did not care enough to get you a gift
Because apathy and non-acknowledgment is so much more considerate than a bad gift? Dude what?
I said that I personally would prefer to get nothing at all, than for them to give me some half assed gift that they only gave me to save face. I’d rather them be upfront about the disrespect, than give me a meaningless gift to try to make themselves feel better about being shitty and to make themselves look better. Not once did i say it was right, just that it’s what I’d prefer over getting a meaningless gift. Please, reading comprehension is key. 🔑
I agree reading comprehension is key but I didn’t say anything about rightness you sassy lil thang 💅. But yeah I agree that personally I’d prefer that too if they were upfront. OP just said he got nothing though.
OK, let me correct myself then. I never said that it was “so much more considerate than a bad gift” what I actually said, is that is what I would personally prefer
NTA – just read your comments that they didn’t get you anything 😭. Your wife’s an AH for sure. Add more info next time though.
YTA. You may not ask for “anything other than basic domestic chores be completed before you come home everyday,” but I bet you have a lot of expectations. And I bet you’re demanding and ungrateful as hell based on your tone. Also, do you have a family or a housekeeping team? Just curious! Housekeepers don’t usually buy gifts for their boss’s birthday, and bosses don’t expect them.