I have been in a relationship with my now girlfriend for almost 2 years. And we have a lot of ups and downs. And this kinda sent me in questioning if I wanted to continue the relationship. For context; about 4 months ago I was extremely stressed from work and overstimulated. So I thought I’d try THC gummies and see if that helped me out. It wasn’t for me. I didn’t have a bad trip or anything it just wasn’t for me. It was medicore. But my girlfriend…while I was overstimulated.. took over the dosage because she didn’t read the serving size. Que me helping her through a bad trip for hours. After a ten hour shift. Now cut to the current day. My brother wanted a gummy so I gave him the serving size even though he wanted more. I explained the serving size and that it was a slow acting gummy it took 2 hours for you to have any effects. I go to he and them am woken up by my girlfriend saying she is worried about my brother and she didn’t want to get blamed. She said I had to go help him because she was high and unable to and I had to.. Turns out she gave him a whole gummy she had left from the past experience…and gave it to him on top of the half gummy..despite what I told her and him. I spent hours helping my brother who was throwing up everywhere. I had to monitor him for hours. I didn’t sleep for the rest of the night much less day because of that. And she was irritated that I was upset that she got high and overdosed him despite my words. AITA to be upset and mad at her and or start questioning my feelings on our relationship because of her disregard to it all.
*Edit* I definitely shouldn’t have used the term overdose, and while I left it out of the story. I did have a strong conversation with my brother about the situation given that he is an adult. I was livid at him too. So I don’t only blame my girlfriend. But I would say my feelings are a bit stronger in regards to her because she told him her experience..laughed about it..and did it all over again with him and left em to take case of it all. I am definitely partial to blame. Thank you on a serious note for everyone commenting. I struggle with emotions and I guess reading the situation. So the answers help me navigate how to process and be better so thank you all again. I really do appreciate it. I’ll probably delete my post in a bit since I got my answer but to everyone who let me know I was a ass..thank you…I will be heading to have a apology with her
NTA at all. She ignored what you clearly explained, doubled his dose, then got mad at you for being upset while you were literally cleaning up vomit and making sure he was okay. That is not a “little mistake,” that is irresponsible as hell and low key dangerous. Questioning the relationship over repeated stuff like this is very reasonable.
Yeah I would get the gummies out of the house. The girlfriend is chaos with THC. I know people that just don’t metabolize pot correctly and they don’t keep trying. Your issue maybe hereditary. I would advise your brother to not screw around with THC gummies unless he really likes Greening out.
Already on it. I’m upset and quite frankly torn between whether I’m over reacting and just being exhausted in the relationship. If gummies happen again I’ll blow a gasket
NTA. She obviously doesn’t know how to make grown up decisions. She gave him the gummy and then didn’t want to deal with the mess. That’s is irresponsible and I wouldn’t trust her with your brother in the future. He is obviously too immature to take safety seriously and she won’t. I hope he has learned his lesson on dosing.
He has. He told me he never wanted to touch it again which I am happy about. I don’t have an issue with pot or gummies ect. It I had being a parent to everyone in my house even when I feel like shit
NTA. He should have listened to you and not asked for more but she also should have listened to you and not given him more. Get the gummies out of the house and make sure they stay out.
YTA for blaming your gf. Your brother is an adult, he wanted more, he took more. She’s not responsible for his choices and she’s not an AH for letting him make them.
You shouldn’t even be giving him gummies
Info: where are you located? Are these legal gummies? This feels so off but I can’t quite place how
Solely blaming your girlfriend when your brother is a literal adult isn’t really fair. Yes, your girlfriend is totally in the wrong, but none of you are without blame, YOU also gave your brother the gummies, you explain the correct dose to your brother and he took the extra dose anyway. Hold him accountable for his actions, he’s 20 not 5.
ESH
YTA
Brother is an adult. HE wanted more than what you gave him. HE chose to take it.
Why are you mad at your GF? What’s she got to do with this at all?
I mean, he’s an adult. It sounds like he went to her saying he felt nothing, so she gave him more, and it was more than he could handle. He’s an adult, you don’t need to protect him from making his own mistakes.
That being said, it was her fault, she shoulda dealt with the vomit, not you !
Eh you’re all in your 20s you’re kind of supposed to do stupid shit like this.
Yta.
Your brother is an adult.
Your girlfriend isnt responsible for “watching” Your adult brother.
Youre looking for reasons to be mad at your gf.
No, you have no right to be upset at your gf.
ESH you’re brother is an adult, and as such he makes his own decisions. That includes wanting a higher dose of edible than he could handle, and ingesting it once it was offered. Your girlfriend is not responsible for his choices anymore than you were as you BOTH provided him weed, but noone is more responsible for an adult’s decisions than that adult. Should it have fallen to you alone to care for him? No. Was he still at risk of an adverse reaction at the dose you gave him? Probably. Weed hits each person differently. It would be one thing if GF gave it to him after you wouldn’t at all, but you did give him some and therefore you started this whole mess yourself. So in conclusion, you shouldn’t have given him any at all if you weren’t willing to risk being needed if there were consequences, your GF(who holds the least responsibility here) probably shouldn’t have given him more when he wanted it, and he DEFINITELY shouldn’t have taken so much with no clue how it would hit him.