I 27M work as a massage therapist I’ve worked really hard to build my client base and get certified and I genuinely love what I do. My brother 31M has always made jokes about my job calling it not a real career and saying I should “do something serious.
Last weekend at a family dinner he started again in front of everyone. He said So how’s the back rubbing business going? and laughed. A few people chuckled and I felt embarrassed but tried to brush it off.
Two days later he called me asking to borrow money because he’s behind on rent. It’s not a small amount either. I can afford to help but I told him I wasn’t comfortable lending him money after the way he talks about my work. I said if my job isn’t “serious then my money probably isn’t either.
Now my mom says I’m being petty and that family should help family no matter what. My brother says I’m overreacting and holding a grudge over just jokes.
I feel like respect should go both ways. Am I the ass hole?
NTA tell your mom she qualifies as family as well
NTA, bullys gonna bully
NTA.
Does your brother have a job? What is it?
And if your mother is saying family helps family, where is her offer to help? It’s her kid. Her and her husband created the family, they should be the ones to help their children.
NTA. But also petty. Win/win
NTA, never lend money to family.
NTA. Hes insecure. Its your money, you can lend it or not lend to whoever you want.
However, if you do lend him the money, you could potentially shut him up forever lol
Before joining Reddit, I had no idea that job mocking was such a widespread phenomenon.
“Why don’t you help him, then? If family helps family?”
-everyone’s always morally superior until it comes time to pay the fucking check
for real that’s the fucking problem
The “back rubbing business” is not going well enough for me to give you money you can’t afford to pay back from your “serious” job. Mom thinks I’m being an AH, ask her for the money”
Mock my job? “ It pays me enough to pay the rent, what about you?”
At the end of the day it’s your money that you worked for and earned yourself and you have a choice to do what you want with that money.
Your job is irrelevant f that guy NTA.
NTA. Begs the real question, why can’t he pay his own rent, and furthermore why isn’t his mummy helping 🤷🏻♂️
I’m so tired of hearing family supports family. If that was true, your brother wouldn’t be making fun of your job. NTA