Hi everyone, I wanted to share this experience with you to see if I’m expecting too much or not…
This all happened a while ago, and I thought about it again while talking to a friend of mine about this other friend of ours (I’ll call her Bianca for privacy reasons). Italian schools allow students to try out a job for about two weeks and at the end we get a final evaluation, so I decided to be as a teacher in an elementary school, and I went there with Bianca. The first day went pretty well, we both got two really good classes and we assisted the teachers. The only thing that surprised me were some of the topics they were discussing in class (nothing serious btw, i just thought they were too young) so at the end of the day, I called Bianca and told her my first impressions of the class, obviously without going into much detail: I just said that the topics seemed a bit difficult for such young children, but that I still really appreciated the teacher. The week continued smoothly with the kids, but little by little, I began to notice that some teachers either didn’t greet me or even looked at me with disdain. The following week, the principal emailed me asking me to come to his office, and I was very confused and scared, but I went anyway. There, he began a very serious speech about the privacy of what was said in class, about how it was clear I was being forced by my school to come and that I was only there for the final evaluation, etc.
Finally, I asked him what he was referring to, and he told me he’d heard from a colleague (B) that I’ve made negative comments about my class teacher. When I got home, Bianca immediately called me to apologize and while crying, she told me that while she was talking to this teacher (B) about the fact that children don’t understand certain topics, she let slip a comment about the situation I’d described. Of course, the next day, I apologized to the teacher and he told me everything was fine, but that he would have preferred if I’d made those comments in person (I remind you that I didn’t say anything bad about him, but I decided to keep my mouth shut because I didn’t want to get Bianca into trouble).
I was really sad because I could see that the teachers in my class despised me and weren’t really happy to talk to me. Bianca, on the other hand, had a wonderful relationship with the teachers and was treated like a true colleague.
I was very happy for her, even though I found myself in that situation, but I would have preferred that she herself went to talk to the teacher (B), with whom she had a good relationship, to make her understand that I hadn’t said anything bad… it could be my fault for not asking her to do so, but i kinda expected her to help me clear the misunderstanding.
I’m not going to cut contact with her for this, because it’s really nothing, but i just felt a bit sad.
Sorry it’s a bit long 😅