I made an agreement with my coworker yesterday that he would come in early for my shift by 1 hour. The day of the shift I realized I needed to leave earlier and asked if he could come in earlier than the 1 hour we agreed upon. He stated no and I said no issue I’ll see you when you get here. He then proceeds to not show up at the time and states that I insulted him by crossing a boundary by asking him to come in earlier than the agreed time. So AITA for asking my coworker to come in earlier than the original agreed time.
I’m a little confused, he just didn’t show up at all?
Wouldn’t he get in trouble for just randomly rocking up late?
Instead of coming early as agreed he came in for his scheduled shift time. Since it’s my shift and he just agreed to work part of my shift i will technically be the one who’s in trouble
NTA.
You simply just asked, and when he said no you didn’t push it further or anything and accepted it. He should have clarified that he wouldn’t come to the previous agreed timing though, as that was already agreed upon.
NTA. As long as you said something along, hey dude, sorry, I just realized I need to leave an hour earlier. Is there any chance you can come in earlier? And not hey you have to come in at 12 not 1. Or an ambiguous need you here at 12.
Side note, your coworker doesn’t know what a boundary is.
INFO: do you ask him often? And how did you ask him if he could come an hour earlier?
I wouldn’t say often but it has happened before. I just asked if he could come in a hour early cause I have school first thing in the morning
YTA
easy NTA, you asked, he agreed & he didn’t follow through
ESH
You made a deal and decided last minute to change the deal, doesn’t mean that not honoring the original deal is fair, but both of you don’t understand how this is supposed to work.
You can;t expect last minute for someone to come in EVEN earlier, that’s just not how it’s supposed to be.
But saying you’ll cover a shift and not doing it because you think that asking someone a question is “insulting” damn, he has some learning to do.
You’re the softest asshole, because you just made a mistake and probablity will learn from it, other person is a MASSIVE ASSHOLE.
> You made a deal and decided last minute to change the deal, doesn’t mean that not honoring the original deal is fair, but both of you don’t understand how this is supposed to work.
this wasn’t a deal? what was his end of the deal? do you know how deals work?
this was a favor, she asked to change the terms of the favor a bit and he could have just said no. but this wasn’t any kind of deal
Sorry english is my 6th language so maybe it’s lost in translation. He needed a favor so he made a “deal” that the other person would start earlier. Maybe the word deal isn’t correct but they both came to an agreement. That’s the deal in this situation.