Hello, this is my first post in this subreddit but honestly I just need some advice. Im a 28 y/o male and Me and my mom both work from home(her house and for her company). I moved in with her bc she couldn’t pay me much at first bc we we’re getting the company off of the ground, but now that I make more money (still less then the average pay for my position) I plan on moving out soon. But lately she started smoking in every room in the house (other then my room) and I can’t take it. I understand it’s her house but I do technically pay rent and I just don’t think it’s fair they I have to work in a small ass office space while she smokes in it. Honestly I feel like it’s vindictive behavior bc she only started doing this after I told her I plan on moving soon, and she’ll stop smoking around the house when I start getting bad asthma symptoms. And she doesn’t do it when there’s other company around, so she knows it offensive but for some reason in her head I deserve it.
NTA for asking, but since it’s her house, she can do what she wants. You said you helped her get the company off the ground, but you also said it’s her company. So, why are you accepting less than average pay especially since she doesn’t seem at all grateful towards you? This all seems like a bad move for your life and like you have missed out on more lucrative opportunities in order to help your Mom get her business started. On top of this, I agree with you that she is doing this on purpose, I guess she is mad that you are moving out. I recommend that you FIRST get a job somewhere else, then move out and build your own career. Stop helping her build her company if she can’t even be considerate of your MEDICAL situation, is literally doing this to punish you and she doesn’t respect you at all.
Your mom is being passive aggressive about you moving out. Bluntly tell her that if she doesn’t stop smoking in the shared office that not only will you move out, but you will find a different job that pays better. NTA
Just move out. You are 28 and should start your own life. You will also get along better with your mom during visits than living together and getting on each other’s nerves.
nta. honestly unless you have ownership of the company i would be looking for a different job that actually pays a fair wage.
Yeah my mom had me older so she’s like 60, the plan is for me too take over the company when she retires soon. i have been looking for other jobs but the market hasn’t been the best
unless it’s in writing i wouldn’t plan on it. be careful.
only if you tow the line!
Move now! Get a different job immediately! It’s her house, her business and she does not appreciate you and is only using you for her own benefit. NTA