I (21F) live with my roommate (22F), we split rent, and walls are thin af. She’s got a new boyfriend and he’s over basically every night. They’r EXTREMELY loud. Like porn soundtrack loud.
I’ve asked her multiple times to keep it down, especially on work nights and she won’t listen, she pretty much laughs it off. Last week they woke me up at 2am before a 6am shift and that pretty much sent me over the edge. I knocked on her door, her boyfriend opened the door half naked, smirked awkwardly but in a way where he didn’t really care??said that “they’ll try.” And it got way louder.
The next day I told her if he’s gonna pretty much live here and ruin my sleep, she needs to chill, see him less, or pay more rent because at this point it’s really draining. She didnt really care but when i persisted she said I’m slut shaming and trying to be controlling about her life (even thought I barely see her most days) .
I just want to sleep. AITA?
NTA
A bit of noise is probably to be expected but you’re consistently able to hear them and have addressed it, it borders on rude but also like it’s a kink.
You’re not asking her to not have sex, just to be mindful.
NTA. They should be more considerate.
Nta, at this point speak to your landlord. There is probably a clause in your lease about having guests over for a long time. They don’t care and are probably getting off on you hearing them. Speak to your landlord and file a complaint.
I have and he said it’s usually not an issue for most people because they either do the same or go somewhere else but I don’t have anywhere to go or don’t really want to bring someone over
So they dont care that someone is living in their place and isn’t paying rent…girl this is about to piss me off for you
NTA.
You have every right to be able to sleep in your own space and you have raised the issue amicably. Sadly it seems they are finding it a game or are just too immature to take your concerns seriously.
NTA. If their business is so loud that it affects the quality of your life it’s bad. They gotta be considerate. Maybe make her install a soundproof wall. You gotta put up your boundaries there’s nothing wrong with what you did.
NTA, that’s incredibly rude and disgusting. And not getting enough sleep because of roommate being loud is genuinely one of the worst things because sleep is super important
NTA.
Start recording them, and play it back when they start banging. Or smoke alarm sounds. Or a bad porn soundtrack.
Record them and upload a clip to tik tok or whatever asking for people to rate the porn performance.
NTA. Check your lease for visitor rules and enforce them.
Do not renew your lease with roommate.
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I had a neighbour (woman) doing exactly this, tbf it didn’t bother me. However, for the 63 year old, granny, neighbour, whose flat was directly above theirs, it was no bueno. The neighbour making the noise got reported to the landlord/ property management and was kicked out 7 month into their 12 month lease.
I might find a very thin Bluetooth speaker I could slide under their door and when they get loud play the most obnoxious music I could think of.
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It sucks they are being such jerks and you shouldn’t have to leave your home because of their behaviour. I would start encouraging them. Cheer them on through the wall while playing CBAT.
If it still persists spray some fart spray under the door, find other sound tracks to play that would be hard to keep am erection going and wear some noise cancelling headphones if your choice of stuff is too bad to actually listen to kill the boner, kill the problem. If you do it every time eventually they will have sex elsewhere or be quiet
Every night? Check your lease. She wants to be an asshole, you can play hardball too.