Been poorly since Xmas with nasty flu and chest infection. On my 3rd round of steroids for my chest plus inhalers. Yesterday after a long day at work (wfh) my voice had given up and I can hardly speak. My boyfriend came home around 6.30pm having finished work at 3 then been to the pub. He was chatty and wanted me to chat back. I said as best I could, I’m losing my voice and feel terrible I just want to sit quietly tonight and try to recover. He is angry at me and kicked off that I don’t care, don’t want to make conversation and am uninterested. It ended in a row and him sleeping on the couch. I’m too poorly to really care right now but I think he is being terribly unfair. I literally have no voice to chat!
This morning my voice is totally gone and he still persistently is asking me questions and trying to make me chat to him. I’m becoming resentful now. AITA?
NTA. You have a medical condition and lost your voice, yet he’s making your illness all about his ego. He went to the pub, had his fun, and came home to demand emotional labor from someone who is literally struggling to breathe. He’s being incredibly selfish and immature.
he’s literally picked a fight with someone who physically cannot speak
NTA
I’d be surprised if this was the only problem you have with your boyfriend.
Seeing how a partner treats you when you’re ill is an important. This will show you how he’ll treat you in the future. This certainly isn’t going to be the only health problem you’ll have in your life. If he can’t handle something as straightforward as a lost voice, how’s he going to handle anything more serious?
Nta and I know reddit always says dump him but he doesn’t sound like he respects you. Who yells at their sick partner for not paying extra special attention to them???
Most people stop yelling when they don’t get their way after the toddler phase. This guy still throws temper tantrums. Actually, most children it would be kinder if they knew their mom was sick. Throw the whole man away!
NTA
Once you get rid of this sickness, it’s time to get rid of him too. Apparently his need to “chat” and have you answer his back is more important than you recovering? In what world is that ok? Your living with an incredibly selfish person, don’t keep treating yourself so badly, move on.
NTA – you’re sick
NTA at all OP. Think about your future with him. How he treats you when you’re ill is VERY important. What if you get a life changing diagnosis like cancer? I can imagine he won’t treat you very well or just up and leave entirely.
NTA. This is the very definition of a clueless, self-centered person. Chances are this isn’t the first time he’s been so childish and unsympathetic.
It’s just going to get worse. Do you really want to lock yourself up with someone like this?
You’re sick and struggling to breathe, never mind talk. He went out and had fun (fair, you’re not that ill), and once he came home, instead of making your life easier, he demanded to be entertained by you in exactly the manner he decided would please him. And then in the morning when he was sober and you were feeling worse, he continued to demand that you perform for him.
Of course you’re resentful. He’s bullying you.
Use your phone’s text to speech function, type ‘I have lost my voice’. Turn the volume up, and play it at him.
NTA
You are asking whether you are the Aita? REALLY????
NTA but I feel like your boyfriend picking a fight with over this is ridiculous and there may be some underlying issue for you guys. If he’s treating you this badly when you’re this sick I would definitely ask him really what’s going on. And if it’s just that you couldn’t chat this guy is a toddler and you need to dump him asap.
You’re NTA and I question the dedication of a partner who spends several hours in a pub after work instead of coming home to check on/care for his very ill significant other.
Then I question the maturity this person who is having a pouting hissy fit because he isn’t getting enough attention from his sick partner.
Your voice is gone, I recommend using sign language. There’s one universal signal that should cover all you need to say.