I feel this is a little silly, but here we go. (Also, first time poster!) So my father went to the store and bought beef for me to use to cook. He then told me I owed him $50. Ngl, I was a little shocked, so I asked him to see the receipt. Not because I didn’t trust him (I fully believed he paid $50) but because I was incredulous at the price the grocery store was charging and I wanted to see so I could get an idea for the future (I don’t cook often).
He got very offended and accused me of not trusting him. My mother also sided with him and told me I should consider intent versus impact. However, unlike my dad, she took the time to ask me why I asked for the receipt, so I explained to her my reasoning above. I also contended that I have no control over what narrative my dad assigned to my words without giving me the chance to explain. He jumped to being offended and concluded I didn’t trust him without even giving me the chance to speak. I can understand his questioning my intent, but I don’t agree with me being responsible for him getting offended.
So, Reddit, AITA for asking to see a receipt?
ETA: Saw the receipt and it says he bought 3 chuck roasts. Apologies since I didn’t know this until I saw the receipt, as he had unpacked the meat and pre-prepped it by the time I got home from work.
Na, NTA. Why would he be so weird about providing the receipt??
Beef is super expensive right now, so it could totally be legit. So….why…wouldn’t he show you the receipt..I wonder?
Some people just cannot tolerate being questioned at all. He also might have rounded up and didn’t want to admit it.
So did you see the receipt or not, and did you pay him?
I saw the receipt and I am transferring the money now. I always intended to pay for the amount regardless. (Sorry I didn’t say this before.)
NTA but wouldn’t the meat have the pricing on it too?
NTA.
Yes, beef is expensive, but what cut of beef was he buying?!? $50 is a hell of a lot of money. Your Dad’s reaction is, frankly, suspicious (IMO).
In my fam we always give the receipts to the person paying for the items. I get stuff for my dad all the time, then I give him the receipts. It isn’t that he doesn’t trust me, it is just common courtesy.
Just curious, is the package of beef not stamped with the weight, unit price, and total price? Did you end up getting any resolution to your actual question?
So he had pre-cooked the beef for me by the time I saw it, so packages were gone. Also, I didn’t really see the amount at the start so I can’t tell you the exact weights. Tbf, it was three chuck roasts iirc.
And yes, I saw the receipt.
So he went to the store, bought the beef, cooked it, and hits you up for money? Interesting family dynamic.
Yes, he parboiled it, which I didn’t know. He was doing it to be nice. I was surprised when I got home and let him know I was grateful but had expected to do that part myself.
He parboiled $50 worth of beef? What a waste.
God yes, wtf is that about!!
NTA
asking for the receipt is valid no matter the reason behind it, but expecially valid since you were shocked at the price, not because you didnt trust your dad. Beef can be expensive, expecially now, but i get it, i’d wanna see the receipt too.
I mean, 5 pounds of beef at $10/pound… I don’t know what kind of meal this was for, it could easily be $50. Even ground beef is $6-8/ a pound these days, depending on the store and the quality. Even so, they should give you the receipt. NTA