Aita:
I (28m dutch)work at a (high end) hotel on a caraiben island.
I make a decent wage, but living cost is extremly high there.
I met a nice russian lady (f30 ish) at work, we talked for a while and since she doesnt have a car she asked me to drop her off at her airbnb (she was there just for a brunch).
We kept talking and a few days later i asked her and her son out for dinner.
We had a lovely evening and i paid the dinner in full ($220)
We chatted (on whatsapp) about doing some activities and i asked her to go to do some bowling, and i asked if we can split the bill
This is how it went after that question
Her : Sorry
Her : I don’t have more money
Her : I think better if we don’t go
Her: Invite some another people that way
Her: In any case, I only split the bill with my female friends.
Mel: I kind of understand but just know you for oke day and i paid the dinner in full
Her: It’s creepy that you write this. Sorry.
Wish you a wonderful life !
What?
Are you drunk or high typing this? She’s not interested, back off
She was until i asked to split
You need to edit this to make it readable. YTA for posting as is
Yes. You are an asshole.
I think I get it. She’s a cheap gold digger
She was just looking for a free ride and/or a free dinner. NTA.
NTA for asking to split the upcoming bill (although you probably could have done it more tactfully). YTA for bringing up that you paid for dinner.
Why, if i akready paid for dinner doesnt that makes it more logical that she takes this (smallerl bill or at least split it
No, unless that was explicitly said when you paid for dinner, “I’ll pay for dinner you pay for bowling/next activity/time.”
Overall NAH, for asking, and her for refusing.
You are just incompatible/want different things.
Why didn’t you make it clear at the start that you planned to split the bill?
I did, it was before we went
NTA maar het is niet zo normaal voor buitenlandse vrouwen om de kaart te splitten. Ik denk dat zij dacht dat je de volle activiteit zoude betalen omdat dat normaal is in Rusland. Mijn Amerikaanse vrienden hebben me gesteld dat daar het normaal is voor de mens dat heeft “asked out” om te betalen. Misschien is het samens in Rusland. Of misschien is zij een gold digger haha.