Her and I habe been coparenting for almost his whole life (4yrs) and have been doing pretty well.
The odd bump in the road regarding times etc but nothing huge.
Today my son tells me that he and we’ll call him (Fred) went to a cabin with mom and watched a new movie. Ok I said thats cool what movie etc etc.
Than I texted my ex and asked about why she didnt feel the need to let me know she was taking my son somewhere with her boyfriend? I said if I did that with someone (im not in a relationship) she’d have called the cops.
She went defensive right away. And told me she didnt feel the need to tell me. And that I was out of line.
Im not sure what else to post. Hope I didnt break any rules. Just feels like im "crazy" for expecting her to let me know things like this…. no?
What makes you say if the situation was reversed, she would have called the cops?
YTA. It’s her parenting time. She can take kiddo on vacation without your permission. Just like you can take kiddo on vacation on your parenting time. You sound controlling.
YTA, his mom is allowed to take him places on her parenting time.
Yeah, YTA. She is allowed to do whatever activity she wants with him on her time. She doesn’t need your permission.
YTA. She doesn’t need to tell you anything about what she does on her time as long as she follows the custody agreement. (Which usually includes going out of state, etc)
YTA what she does on her time is nunya!
>I believe that some people could view me as YTA for being nosy about what her private life entails
You hit the nail on the head. The fact that you repeatedly mention that she took him to a cabin *with her boyfriend* makes it sound like you’re not upset that your kid was taken somewhere without your knowledge – you’re upset about the boyfriend.
Unless your ex took your kid out of state or actually put him in danger, then no, she doesn’t have to check in with you before taking him somewhere. Unless your custody agreement says otherwise, her time with the kid is *hers*. She can take him to a cabin or a waterpark or wherever else she wants (again, safe and within reason).
So yes, I believe YTA.
YTA. You don’t get to control where your wife goes or with whom. She didn’t put your child in danger. She hasn’t ever called the cops on you, has she? Quit inventing strawmen to justify your overreaction. There’s no law saying that your EX can’t watch movies with her child at her boyfriend’s place.
YTA-you are out of line. She doesn’t need to share any information with you.
Yta. It’s her time, she can do as she wishes with your shared child.
Unless it’s in your parenting plan, she doesn’t need to tell you anything and doesn’t need your permission.
YTA
You’d have a point if it was just him and Fred. But she was there too.
How is them being at a cabin any different than being at her house?
Unless they crossed state lines or there’s something specific in your custody agreement that pertains to significant others, you really don’t have a say.
Of course 2 decent humans trying to co-parent and put their child’s needs ahead of their own would have a conversation before any overnight visits with significant others.
Wait, so this isn’t about the fact she took your kid somewhere, it’s that she did it with a boyfriend? Then YTA.