AITA for wearing a dress similar to my sisters?
My sister last year got a dress from her boyfriend for her 21st birthday it is a light blue dress with blue sparkly flowers only on the bodice her bodice is see through, it is strapless. at the time I had told her that’s my dream dress and she has known even before she got the dress that blue is my favourite colour ( I have autism and I must wear blue it’s one of my weird quirks idk) so today I went formal ( prom for Americans) dress shopping and I was having the best time trying on dresses with my mum and my other sister I tried on sooo many but this one was the only dress that I liked and made me comfy sensory wise so mum bought it for me for $199 I thought it was totally fine considering hers was more expensive and looks better anyways. Mine has sparkly white butterflies on it all over the dress and the bodice has straps and it will be altered to not be see through on the bodice but currently it is. the butterflies have a special place in my heart because of my grandma who passed away she is an artist and she and I used to paint together one time she we were painting and a blue butterfly landed on my shirt ever since then butterflies follow me round. So this dress holds very sentimental value for me as that was an experience I had not her. To continue the story I got home and excitedly showed her the dress inside the dress bag not even outside the bag and she kept silent until she sat down at the table and cried then my other sister and my mum were trying to reel her back in to normality but she cracked it screaming and crying and yelling saying I always get what I want and I never to spend money and blah blah blah how I’m really malicious how I talk horrible to my parents and her.she hasn’t even seen it out of the dress bag. I really don’t think it’s that deep but AITA?
Edit*** it does look quite similar but I didn’t even think of her dress when I bought it and it’s been over a year since my sister wore hers so I thought it might be ok, any way I could fix this fight? Is it worth fixing?
Unless I’m missing something, I don;t understand why what you wear would even matter to her. Are you wearing this dress for some specific event that she is wearing her dress for? Even so, it shouldn’t be that big of deal. So you are a little matchy? You’re sisters, it’s even kind of cute. I’m going to go with NTA because unless something is missing here, I can’t imagine crying over anything my own sister would wear that has nothing to do with me.
NTA
No-one owns the world rights to all blue dresses.
Seems that there may be some inequity to how your mother buys YOU things and treats her, Rightly or wrongly, your sister has some resentment.
NTA your sister is being really weird about this which does make me wonder what the bigger picture is.
I have braces she doesn’t, I get theatres lessons she didn’t at my age but the difference is that she is good at school I’m not she has friends I don’t she wasn’t bullied I get relentlessly bullied ( which is why finding a dress I feel comfortable in was really important to me) but that’s not my fault that I needed braces I do admit the theatre thing is wrong however I have to pay my parents back for every cent they pay for theatre lessons out of my own salary as an apprentice ( at my age she would have been payed better)
This kind of nitpicky obsession with everything your parents spending on you and your siblings being exactly equal isn’t healthy. You’re different people and will need different things at different times in life. My parents helped my siblings pay for higher education that I didn’t pursue because it didn’t suit me or help me achieve my goals, but they’ve helped me in lots of other ways. It’s up to your family to decide how much your parents want to or can help you, but you shouldn’t feel guilty for things like needing braces.
I saw you post the link to the dress in another comment and it’s gorgeous, I hope you have a great time at your formal! Your sister is 23 she needs to grow TF up.
So not the same family event. Wear what you want and have fun!! You must look very good in the dress to have your sister in a fit. NTA!
She hasn’t even seen it on me she has only seen it in the dress bag
I’m wondering what in heaven’s name is going on with your sister. I’m pretty sure that your school formal is going to have an entirely different group of people in attendance than your older sister’s 21st, and I’m equally certain that a blue dress with sparkly butterflies is sufficiently different from a dress without them that anyone with with half a brain can tell them apart.
Your sister’s objections are ridiculous. There’s no way for you to fix this because the problem is inside your sister, and not your the dress you selected to wear to prom.
NTA