So for background information, I met this guy in highschool. He was a year below me and failed one year so technically he was 2 years below me. In December we began talking again after not talking for a few months. It quickly turned into flirting and he even told me he had dreamt about me a few months prior. The dream was supposedly something about s.
I then asked the obvious question, if he was seeing someone else as he was flirting with me. He then told me he was seeing this other girl. I asked if they were serious and he wouldn’t answer me. I then told him i was going to stop talking to him, as he was seeing someone else and I didn’t want to break that apart or anything.
Then recently he began talking to me again, again flirting. I flirted back, assuming he broke things off with the other girl. He then said “maybe ever in the future we’d be together”. So I was super confused and asked further. I asked if he was still seeing the other girl and he said yes. I then told him, if I was her I wouldn’t like him talking to other girls like this (flirting, telling them he sees a future with them in the far future, because to me this comes off as if he’s not serious with her). He then told me I shouldn’t take it serious and that he loves her.
I asked a guy friend of mine and he said it’s weird for him to say this all to me, but having a (possible) girlfriend.
Just today I found her socials and I’m wondering if I should reach out to her to tell her all this or should I just let go of this? Would I be an asshole to tell her all of this?
you’re not an AH to tell her. BUT butting into someone else’s relationship almost never goes well, and you’re opening yourself up for a lot more drama, and possibly her trying to get back at you.
So, YTA, to yourself, if you tell her.
If he is doing this behind his gf back he will also do it to you. When people show you sho they are…. Believe them!!
NTA- If I was her, I’d definitely want to know. Send her screenshots and tell her “if I was in your shoes, I’d want to know”. If she tries to shoot the messenger then just do NOT respond to her and completely ignore both of them from there on out to avoid drama. You’re not trying to be her friend, so who cares if she gets mad at you.