I’ve only met this person at like Christmas parties and my dad’s birthday and such. She is hanging out with my dad today for triple J’s hottest 100, and I said she’s a "stranger who I’ve only seen at Christmas parties". My dad’s girlfriend told me to stop being rude but that wasn’t my intention? I didn’t say that to be rude and didn’t mean it in a negative way (I was just noting how I barely know her in a completely neutral way). To me, she’s a complete stranger, I only know her name and what she looks like, I’ve barely ever spoken to her and, while my dad may be her friend, the correct term for her relationship with me is strangers. Was mentioning this rude? I’m autistic so I don’t always realise if something’s not socially appropriate.
So, AITA?
What prompted you to say this begin with? There’s no context here at all.
NTA, but maybe *’acquaintance’* might be a better fit. I’m autistic too, and it’s easy to define things in a way that is *technically* correct that is interpreted with additional context to be malicious. It’s just how it is.
Yes, you’re unintentionally TA here.
This is a friend of your dad and you’re being rude.
I’m not so sure it’s unintentional.
She’s not a stranger since you’ve met her multiple times. She’s just someone you don’t know well. YTA for calling her a stranger just to make your point and it’s rude to call her that in front of your family or to her face. Since you’re obviously harboring animosity toward her, just do what normal people do and avoid her at these parties and birthdays.
NAH I think this is just your lack of knowledge, she isn’t a stranger – a stranger is someone you’ve never met,
She is a family acquaintance – someone you know through your family but not on a personal level, though it would be more polite to refer to her as a “family friend”. your knowledge of her on a personal basis doesn’t matter with this context.
when you’ve met someone through others – they are considered “Acquaintances” (and this specifically is when you’re introduced/met with/conversed with said person). If you see someone at a party you both mutually are at, but not introduced then they are people you are aware of/strangers.
Calling her a stranger adds coldness and disconnect, even if she isn’t connected to you, she is connected to your father and thus you. “stranger” is not neutral in society. Stranger usually comes with the context of “danger” or “comfortability” “unknown” etc. whereas “Acquaintance” has familiarity.
She should be called “my dad’s friend”. If you want to say you don’t know her add, “but I really don’t know her.” Saying she is a stranger sounds odd.
there is rude & being honest. there is a fine line. she is not a complete stranger to you. If you were in a pickle among real strangers & she was there, you would seek guidance & help from her. what is your age & hers? you have to trust your dad also.
not a stranger, as you have met. she is an acquaintance. that is, someone known to you but not a friend
Not an asshole but rude yes. She’s your dad’s friend. She’s not a stranger
Soft YTA, as it sounds like you’re a kid and I can get autism making an interaction like this tricky.
A “complete stranger” is someone who you’ve never met or seen before, but this is someone you *do* know, even if just barely lol. It’d be more appropriate (and kind) to refer to her as a family friend or your dad’s friend that you don’t know very well, as someone else already pointed out.
A stranger is someone you know nothing about. You do know something about her. Her name, what she looks like, and at least 2 of her friends. That makes her an acquaintance at least. An acquaintance is someone you know but don’t know very much about. Which sounds like a description for this person. In the future you should just refer to your parents’ friends as your parents’ friends instead of as strangers or acquaintances. Stranger and acquaintance are words that have kind of a cold or negative connotation, and some people will find them rude.
YTA. A stranger is someone you have no connection with whatsoever. What you have here is a secondary connection. You have no personal relationship, true. But she still isn’t a stranger. It would have been accurate to say “someone I barely know.”
She clearly is not a stranger since you met her at multiple occasions. So you’re technically wrong when you call her a stranger. Yet, what is more important is that it was unnecessary to degrade her to a stranger. You surely must have known this would hurt your dad.
Edit: I know see you’re 14 and the interactions took place after you didn’t recognise her, not unprovoked. As long as you did not say this in her face you were not wrong (even though it might not be the best fitting word). Don’t worry about it!