Me and my friend group (all 20M) hadn’t really hung out together since almost 4 weeks ago so we agreed to all go eat at a local restaurant and from there go to the bowling alley and basically spend the afternoon/night bowling, however we didn’t really decide at what hour we’d all go to the restaurant.
So yesterday one of my friend’s (we’ll call him R) did a poll on our Whattsapp group at 12 PM the day before asking if we were all still going to the bowling alley, out of the 5 of us, 4 of us voted yes, the only one who didn’t vote was P (another friend). At 4 PM R did another poll asking what day we were going, Friday or Saturday, and 3/5 voted Saturday, with P and A (another friend) not voting anything. And finally at 6 PM the final poll was done asking if we were going for lunch or for dinner, R me and P voted for lunch whilst A and U didn’t vote.
However, things started going downhill for the plan when at 10PM U said that he didn’t know if he’d go for lunch. And literally one minute later A said that there was no chance he was going to eat or bowling.
I actually got somewhat mad at this since we hadn’t hung out the entire Christmas break and I didn’t know why they didn’t want to have dinner with us, so I asked them in the group chat what their reasoning was. And apparently the reason why A wasn’t going was because him and U had gone today to the casino and also that apparently A wanted to get a tatoo done so he didn’t want to waste 20 bucks on going out to eat. And U in the other hand didn’t even bother giving an explaination to I guess he’s not going because A is not going, which to me is extremely stupid.
And I personally don’t find A’s explaination valid, because 1) from what he said he didn’t lose that much money on the casino 2) 20 bucks to have lunch isn’t an excessive amount of money and 3) he alongside U are the only ones in the friend group with an actual part time job meaning they make money, compared to us who have to use our allowance from our parents
Overall I can’t lie I low key crashed out in the group chat and said that they were making up excuses to justify not wanting to come to have lunch and that if they just don’t feel like going they shouldn’t lie about it, to which A said that if I really have such a problem that he and U aren’t showing up for this one then they could just not show up to the following ones.
So I don’t really know if my reaction was AH or not, I can’t lie that I got really upset (still am) that they don’t want to come have lunch with us when we’ve literally not hung out a single time on this Christmas break, especially when one of the motives is that they hung out without us and lost some money. I didn’t mention this but it was A who even suggested this plan a couple days ago so the fact he’s the one cancelling just feels so dumb to me, and U not giving any reasons just solidifies that he’s not going because A isn’t, which shows lack of personality to me.
AITA?