I’m a first year college student and had a pretty big exam scheduled early the next morning. It wasn’t my hardest class, but it was one where missing a few points could really hurt my grade.
The night before, a group of my friends wanted to go out to a party off campus. At first I said I’d probably skip this one because I wanted to review and actually get some sleep. They didn’t drop it. They kept saying it was just one night, that everyone was stressed anyway, and that going out would help me relax.
I went back and forth on it for a while because I didn’t want to be the boring one, but eventually I stuck with my decision and stayed home. I studied for a bit, went to bed early, and took the exam the next morning.
Later that day, when we were all hanging out, a couple of them made jokes about how I’m “no fun now” and how college has already turned me into someone who never goes out. They laughed, but it didn’t really feel playful. It felt like I was being judged for not choosing the party.
Now I’m wondering if I made it into a bigger thing than it needed to be, or if I should’ve just gone and dealt with being tired for one exam.
AITA for staying home?
Obviously this is not you being an asshole so NTA, but your friends pressuring you and guilt tripping you definitely are. From how they speak it doesn’t really sound like much of a friendship anymore either.
You should consider widening your social circle and find some new people in your life that might show more care and loyalty.
NTA. Nothing wrong with having your priorities in order.
Thanks. That’s how I was trying to look at it too. I just didn’t want one night out to mess with something I’d already put a lot of work into.
Some of these posts are getting ridiculous. “Am I the AH for choosing to be responsible and prioritise my studies over a random party”. You’re almost never the AH for choosing to skip a party, unless it’s a special event and I’m sure you know that.
NTA.
My guy your own obligations comes first before partying. Just tell them that you’ll be free after your exam. If they can’t even wait for like a day or two. I dunno what to tell you.
NTA you just wanna study
NTA
If you know you need the rest or study time, why jeopardize the exam? Some people have it easier and can “afford” to go to parties and still go the the exams and ace them, some can’t do that.
You’re fine 🙂
Ooh let me think…
**Jeopardise my entire future**
Or *partaaay* …
It’s a tough one….
I’ll have to get back to you on that.
You made a good decision. There will be plenty of parties you can attend when it’s a good time for you; this exam happened once. Sure, it might not have been the most important exam of your life, but getting your degree is a series of steps and exams and good decisions. You’ve made a good start.
You may want to seek out friends who have similar priorities to you; goals first, then parties.
Some advice from someone going into my 4th year of study: get friends who align with and respect your priorities, morals and people who support you and don’t make snarky and childish comments. The only peer pressure you should get is for a sweet treat trip…. or sushi lmao. In all seriousness, if they actually cared about you, they would have dropped it and wished you luck instead of complaining.
Those people suck and I’m sorry they made you doubt yourself, I hope your exam went well!!!
NTA
NTA. Your friends want a hivemind, not a social circle.
These friends might not last another 10 years, the education will. NTA
NTA
You made the mature decision to value your studying over a party. There will be other parties.
NTA. Keep those priorities straight, pal. You can’t party if you flunk out. Respect for picking the books over the booze.