i had exams till ysty,im in a friend grp of four,one of them said"come at 9 30,we will go to temple". its just next day of exams i dont really feel like waking up to get ready,3rd i live far from them it takes 1 and half hour for me to get there.i was like i cant guys tell me further plans maybe ill join,honestly i want a break and not get pushed around here and there,and she was like no,no plans yet.but u have to come,she was persistent but ik how much rest i needed so i was like no and tdy morning the other friend was like ‘we are going mandi wanna join?’ i wasnt feeling like it and my parents arent home so i said ill pass. also the plan which she wasnt telling me that they planned on dragging me to bar eventhough ive told them i wont be coming to bar anymore,they dont respect it. during exams i stayed and prepped with my friends who travel in same bus cause these 3 disturb me lot,now she calls me accusing of not hanging with them anymore,i just got 3d holiday and they have plans for all 3,its not easy for me to get permission and one of the days im busy cause family trip,even so i was like ill come on sunday but she went on about it and they are trying to accuse me of hurting their feelings and offending them? one of them even told me in the morning that "you are prioritising urself" and i was like "is that bad?" she said no but "she doesnt like it" i was like ok. am i AITA for declining?also i never said they cant hang out without me,i said u guys carry on ill try to join
NTA
i was gonna go in on how bad this was to read but see youre ESL potentially being Indian.
you have 0 obligation to do anything with anyone. if you dont want to hang out, you dont have to. if others have issue with it then thats their own problem to deal with. drop the ‘prioritizing’ friend because they are NOT a friend you need around if they take such an issue with this. the comment just further cements that idea. you need better friends and a friend group that isnt weirdly toxic and cult like where you cannot be without them.
yeah im a esl indian,ig ill improve on my english lol 😭. im gonna do that tbh i rly dont have a reason to stick around
oh no your english was basically fine, it was the punctuation and lack of separation that was frying my brain lol
but yes just ditch them all at this point and build yourself a better group or even just find one good person to have as a friend. groups are overrated. you truly need just one friend that you can vibe with and thats it. dont rush it nor push for it, though. it can be lonely but its definitely wayyyy better than having actual nasty people as ‘friends’.
Yeah I tend to forget punctuation when I type fast lol,Man fr I think I can settle be like taht
NTA but more importantly, it sounds like you need to find friends who align more with your values. If these friends don’t respect that you don’t want to party at bars, then they are not your people. Nothing personal, I’m not saying they are bad people, just not for you. You will save yourself a lot of drama and heartache in your life if you don’t try to force friendships that aren’t the right fit for you and if you accept that some friendships have a natural end and aren’t meant to be forever. Choose your friends wisely and adjust as needed!
NTA you should prioritize yourself and any friend who says otherwise isn’t your friend