I have a friend in another city. Right now I’m depressed and often think about avoiding social interaction with other people. But that friend constantly pulls me out to go hiking, to bars, and similar activities. He has done a lot for me. For example, he agreed to go to airsoft with me and paid with his own money. He almost lost his eye there due to mfs that dropped a grenade on us from a drone while we were resting after game. He persuaded his friend to invite me to birthday party. He offered me a place to shower, food, etc when I stayed in his city.
Last week we agreed that I would come to visit him and we would hang out with other friends. But I asked whether another friend could host me. I thought that I will do better by taking off that burden (me). But this first friend got offended because he felt I did it behind his back and it was quite disrespectful from my side.
It is disrespectful
He’s trying to help you
YTA
NTA but you should apologize to your friend. You should also ask yourself what this incident means: are you uncomfortable with receiving so much help? Do you feel like it’s making the entire friendship awkward? If not, is there something else you aren’t consciously facing? Depression can blunt your feelings so much; has it made you insensitive?