So this feels stupid, but here we are.
There was one slice of cake left in the fridge last night. No note, no container with a name, nothing. Just sitting there. I got home late, was hungry, and ate it.
A few hours later my roommate got really upset and said that slice was hers and that she had been “saving it in her head” since the day before. I honestly didn’t know and told her that if food is off-limits, it should be communicated somehow.
She says it’s common courtesy not to eat the last piece. I think expecting people to read your mind is unreasonable.
Now it’s awkward and I’m wondering if I messed up.
AITA?
If it’s common courtesy to not eat the last piece, why was she planning on eating the last piece? Was it her cake?
Whose cake was it?
INFO: whose cake was it? Do you regularly just share all food in the fridge?
common courtesy not to eat last piece isn’t that what she was going to do?
It’s hard to say without knowing the general food sharing rules in your household.
Info: literally any context at all.
Info: whose cake was it?
If it wasn’t “for” someone and someone just randomly made/bought a cake, who made it?
If you made/bought the cake and not for her birthday, then NTA.
If you made/bought the cake for HER birthday, then YTA.
If she made/bought the cake for your birthday, NTA.
If she made/bought the cake not for your birthday, YTA.
If you generally share food equally, NTA.
If you’re the kind of roommate who thinks anything without a label is fair game, and you’re usually eating more than your share, YTA.
So…it depends.
YTA
Purely because you keep refusing to answer whose cake it was, which leads me to believe it was *hers* and you don’t want to admit it.
“It was shared” “we both had been eating it”
*Someone* still had to initially buy or make the cake, even if you both were eating it.
Don’t eat things that don’t belong to you? YTA. Unless it was communal cake but the way you’ve posted makes it seem like it was never yours or communal and you just took random food out of
the fridge.
Whose cake was it?
Are you the roommate that finished off your roommates cake without permission, or are you the roommate who ate the last slice of communal cake?
Given this information from a comment:
>*It was a shared cake we bought together for no specific occasion. It had just been in the fridge and we were both eating it over a few days*
You’re NTA.
>She says it’s common courtesy not to eat the last piece.
Duh… **someone has to eat the last piece unless it’s a magic cake that regenerates when the fridge light goes off.** She’s just mad that she didn’t get to be that someone.
Was it *your* cake? Didn’t think so.
YTA
Whenever I had roommates, it was common to have disagreements/resentment about people eating food that did not belong to them. I don’t know your arrangement, but I assume this was not your cake, so you knew it must belong to someone else. It did not magically appear. In this case, YTA.
To make amends, you should purchase another piece of cake for your roommate.
YTA. You may not have known who’s it was, but you knew it wasn’t yours.
Sounds like an “It’s easier to ask for forgiveness than permission” scenario. A simple text to your roommate group chat would have stopped you from stealing your roommates cake.
And it was theft. Taking something that does not belong to you without permission is theft. An item doesn’t have to be labeled with its owner’s name for you to be aware that it does not belong to you. Do you roommates have to hide their car keys and wallets while you’re around? After all they probably don’t have you with me to name on them.