AITA for getting mad/hurt/upset at my long distance partner of 5/6 months on a trip we planned 5months after we started this thing. He has never posted me in his stories or ig. Would you be chill if your partner felt the need to crop you out of a photo you were able to capture in the most random street encounter with the lead band member of one of our da bands?
Am I just being dramatic? I need opinions. I’m hurt that he felt the need to post it and crop me out of it. If he never wanted to post me, I wouldn’t bring this up but the fact that he felt the need to crop me out of a selfie photo where half of his face is also gone cause I’m near him? Am I reading too much into this?
He acknowledged my hurt but said he has never posted any of his gfs and I think I don’t want to think that someone doesn’t want to post me because I’m his gf now.
He tagged me in a couple of his stories before when we were just friends.
I had the feeling that I never want to be in a relationship again where I’m not a priority and where I’m feeling like I’m being hidden.
Because if this is how it’s going to go, I think I can’t do this.
I’m just really upset and hurt that he did that.
You are not being dramatic at all because cropping his own face just to hide yours is genuinely unhinged behavior. If he tagged you as a friend but hides you as a girlfriend he is signaling to the world that he is still available. This is not about a privacy rule if he is willing to post a butchered photo just to keep his feed looking single. Ask him point blank why your existence is a spoiler for his Instagram followers. If he treats you like a secret now he will keep doing it so decide if you want to be a partner or a ghost.
NTA. Although you’re describing him as a “partner” he clearly doesn’t view you as one. He’s telling you something here, so listen up.
NTA are you sure you are the only girlfriend?
NTA. In my experience, those who hide their relationships never have good intentions. They want others to think they are single to keep the door open for new possibilities. If the guy was really into you, he’d be shouting it from the rooftops. He’d be proud you were in his life and willing to share that with all. Those who are truly private, don’t post on IG and share their life with the world at all. If they do have IG, it’s for external things (i.e. gaming or hiking) and not about their life. They don’t post images of themselves going to places. So to post themselves, and crop you out is pretty bad. This is your red flag. Use it wisely.
NtA hes showing himself as single. This is red flag. Try commenting something on his social media like best boyfriend , love you baby or something reference your relationship. He will remove it. He is not your person but judging that your on here you already know that
NTA. Very odd behaviour. Only together long distance for 5/6 months, red flags already, I wouldn’t bother taking this any further
An LDR and he’s cropping you out of pics on social media? Yeah, he’s seeing someone else, girl. Guaranteed.
NTA it seems like he doesn’t want people on insta to know he’s in a relationship.
NTA and I bet he has other girlfriends.
My reason for saying that is the combination of long distance and the crop. Some feels too off about it.
If it really is just “I don’t post pics of my gf”, then fine, I guess. But I’d want proof. He should post a pic of the two of you kissing in his story for 24h. That shouldn’t be a problem because it’s only temporary. Else he should provide a very good reason.
I can’t really tell you what to do, it’s a shitty situation. But it feels very off to me, to the point I suspect he has other girlfriends.
Dump him.
NTA but you are naive. That guy is single.
NTA. It seems that he does not expect you to remain his gf/partner for much longer.