so my parents have always hated having people in my room. one of the big reasons is that it’s because it goes past her bedroom and she doesn’t want people seeing into their room. I’ve said that’s ridiculous and to close the door. She then argues that she doesn’t want people in my room "just cus" and won’t give a clear reason why, even when I press for it she goes "this is my house"
I understand having a guy in my room, but even then he and I are friends and I’ve already got a bf. As for my best friends, I literally don’t see what could possibly be the reason for not letting them in? my room is always clean and I don’t have anything illegal or silly that I’d be doing.
I just don’t know how to argue my point because no matter what I say or how logical it is, she just hits me with the "my house, my rules" and it is driving me insane that she won’t give a fair and reasonable answer.
I am female 20 years old
You’re 20. Time to move out. You’re an adult.
You’re NTA but unfortunately for you, it’s their house & their rules. You don’t have to like it but you do have to live with it
NTA. I was about to ask how old you are. No, you’re not the asshole for ‘getting mad’ but unfortunately its their house. I find it odd though.
Damn thats strange. Especially when you’re 20, i thought you’d be like 16 or something. Hopefully you can move out soon and invite whoever you like, NTA
Do you pay rent if so your room your rules
”My house, my rules.”
Your parents are right when they say this. Even if their rules seem odd or unfair (which in this case, they do, tbf).
You have two choices:
1.) Suck it up and deal with it
2.) Move out.
Up to you.
3) Try to have a serious conversation about it?
Read the OP.
She’s tried that and been shut down every time.
Time to spread those wings. Or, again, deal with it.
if you help pay bills you definitely deserve basic privacy
Nta, but some parents, like my own, are wary around strangers.
It sounds more like a quirk of your parents. There may be no reason behind that except that they are just not comfortable having strangers in their house. For some people, it can just disturb their peace, making them unable to relax and feeling uneasy in their own environment.
Is it JUST your room or are they not comfortable with having strangers around their house?
I understand you are being upset by the lack of explanation and “just cause” or “my house, my rules”. I hate that stuff myself and always try to give reasons for decisions around my kids.
NTA for being upset. However, there is an easy fix. You are 20, so you could consider moving out, maybe rent a shared appartment with some of your friends.
I guess it’s a cultural thing, but I don’t understand the “their house, their rules” thing a lot of people mention. As the child, it’s your house as well and especially with 20 you should have reasonable freedoms.
For me you are NTA for getting mad at them. I think they are unreasonable.
Though, as I said, it might be a cultural thing, how these matters are dealt with.
I grew up in a house like that; found out after I was more than twice your age that my mom had experienced an “incident” as a child (she didn’t go into details, but it explained a lot of her overprotectiveness). If there are other rooms in the house you can have friends visit, you’re better off than I was.