we had only just moved in and we went on holidays. while away my in laws were checking on the house, turning on lights etc. when i got back she had redecorated my house, curtains, furniture, added furniture and ornaments, even bought new bed clothes. i got really upset, i felt like it was an invsaion of my privacy or a dig at my own house keeping style. i got upset and my partner told his dad. his mother was furious and she got upset too. i ended up feeling bad and apologising but the damage was done. she hasnt been the same since. but i still think i was right and she crossed a line.
NTA
You shouldn’t have apologized or tried to appease her. What she did was definitely stepping over the line and your partner made it worse. Make them deal with their parents and take your key back from them.
NTA. This is a huge overstep on your MiL’s part. Your home is your personal space and should be a reflection of your personality not somebody else’s …
You are however an AH for apologising as you’ve just given your MiL a green light to stomp on your personal boundaries again .
So…basically, MIL used this opportunity to paw through EVERYTHING you own, using redecorating-as-a-gift for an excuse.
That about sum it up?
NTA. I would feel so violated. Hopefully she didn’t go so far as to throw out what she replaced.