So long story short, my ex girlfriend had a boy best friend who I Introduced her to as he was one of my closest friends, I never had a problem with him before what happened the other day, but previously me and my ex had split up before due to her cheating on me 3 times yes yes I know stupid for taking her back, but I did can’t change the past obviously after that happened I wasn’t very comfortable with her having guy friends but I had no issue with my bro and her being friends cause I trust him time skip 8 months later and they’ve become really close to the point I start to get a little worried but I don’t say anything cause I don’t want to cause issues with my over thinking however after a while I started to nickname him as her second boyfriend, which she started to get very defensive about, a few weeks after this me and her split up after an argument to do with him, then I find out about 2 days ago those 2 are now seeing each other, so I guess what im asking is where my feelings here valid or where they a contributing factor to them getting together due to me being worried and AITA for feeling like that after a few months when I thought I could trust him?
dude, trust your gut. if it feels off, it probably is.
See this to me is very dependent on your age. I’ll be honest as an ex you cant say who she can date and who she cant. I would say NTA because everyone’s feelings are valid. But its just nothing you can actually do without becoming an AH. If you say or do something then yeh. YTA
Your feelings are valid but take this as a lesson, trust your intuition. You knew what was happening but you was in denial.
I dated three different girls before meeting my wife. Each of them had good friends that were boys that I didn’t “have to worry about”. Each of them ended up marrying those guys. I got married to my wife because she didn’t have a friend that was a guy, in the same way, so she was safe. Ironically I’ve never been her best friend either, so that whole experience really messed with my head.
Does it matter? She cheated on you 3 times, you knew how this was going to end. Sucks your bro is an AH, but this was inevitable, take solace that she’ll cheat on him too.
Y T A to yourself for getting back with a serial cheater, but NTA in the situation.
YTA for taking back a cheater and expecting her to change.
Sounds like you are young and learning the hard way.
Self-Respect is the way.
Some dudes are just gluttons for punishment. You took back a cheater there’s nothing anyone here can do to help you. Your soft
Clearly she will never stop cheating on who she’s with and she will cheat on him too. It’s obvious soemthing has been going on for awhile. I’d never talk to either of them again. Have some self respect.
Good riddance to the both of them, a true friend would never date your ex soon after you broke up. If this was 5- 10 years down the line and they reconnected then it would be different.
But this close to break up it sounds like he was either just waiting for your relationship to fail. Or there was probably something going on already.
Your better off with out her and your fake friend.
NTA,
NTA because you had plenty of reason not to trust your gf but the situation clearly made you uncomfortable and you made passive aggressive jokes instead of addressing the situation directly. Obviously there was more going on if they jumped into a relationship almost instantly. Ditch them both, grow a backbone, and learn how to use proper punctuation for the love of God. This post was almost impossible to read.