My (39m) wife (39f) have a 9 year old and a 6 year old.
For some reason, our 6 year old put measuring tape on her Christmas list. So obviously I got her the measuring tape. On Christmas, my MIL, wife, and my SIL were recording, watching her open her presents, and when she opened her measuring tape, my wife looked at me like I was crazy (I did most of the shopping and wrapped the presents), and after all the gift unwrapping was done, my wife was kind of pissed at me. She said that I was "playing games," and I supposedly embarassed her. I responded by saying "Are you an idiot? That’s literally what she asked for" and I don’t say those type of things on a usual basis but I was annoyed at the moment, and she was getting unnecessarily heated.
After my response, conversation was over, and was very distant that day. Don’t think she really spoke to me that day unless she actually *had* to. Even after I apologized (even though I was right)
AITA?
By the way, this ocnversation didn’t happen in front of the kids/my wifes family. I thought that was clear. Also, my daughter got other presents, and when my wife saw it on her list she just wrote it off, thinking I wouldnt get it.
YTA for calling your wife an idiot. But I’m curious: how did the 6yo react to the present?
I do all the shopping for my family and if my husband had the nerve to criticize my choices on a Christmas morning when he sees the gifts for the very first time he would be a dead man walking. 😊
NTA.
I feel like there is a lot missing to this story. OP makes a point of mentioning a 2nd child and in-laws but they aren’t a part of the story as written. Makes me wonder why they were mentioned at all?
That aside, YTA for calling your wife a name.
Nta.
You got her what she wanted.
You were the one doing all the gifts
What game were you playing? Why does you wife think that gift should be ignored?
Wife seems caught up in superficial things that don’t matter. Sounds like she was the asshole
NTA. You did not dismiss your daughter’s interest/wish list just because its a little different or seems odd. She’s lucky to have you.
NTA- she’s doesn’t get to treat you like shit and expect respect in return.
ESH
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YTA. The words and attitude of “Are you an idiot?” are purposely mean. You may can play some games to say not necessarily, but you are only fooling yourself. There is NO justification for being intentionally mean to someone you claim to love.
YTA. Grow up.
ESH you didn’t have to call her that, you could have let her known you got exactly what she wanted. it’s great you got your child what they requested but the derogatory language with your wife seems unnecessary
Agreed with yes for name calling, no for the gift.
Next year, go to dollar tree and get cute bandaids and tape. Kids eat that shit UP