Two days ago me and my friend went out and I put some lip gloss on my finger and then tell my friend to try it cuz I thought it would suit her sm. The next day she sends me a video about how she has herpes now. I was like rlly shook, and told her how I was really shook about all this. Later on the group chat another girl was like where’s her apology; and I thought she wasn’t serious, so I wrote a really jokey text to my friend and underneath I was like you better reply cuz I spent so long on this. She left me on read. So I message the girl who told me to write the text, and she told me I should’ve been more sincere, and how this girls gonna have it forever. First of all, I didn’t force her to take the lip gloss, and second of (I don’t know if this is true) but it can never take less than 2 days for herpes to form. Ofc I apologised to my friend properly but she has left me on delivered for 4 hours. What should I do
Don’t the majority of adults have oral herpes without knowing?
It depends on how often it manifests. For some people, they can go years without having a cold sore, others way more frequently. The important part is that it’s only transmitted when you have an active sore, so if OP used the lip gloss at any time when they’ve had a cold sore, the herpes is just waiting for another host in said gloss.
Yes, many adults have herpes simplex without ever knowing; almost 90% of people with HSV-1 (oral herpes) or HSV-2 (genital herpes) are never aware of it because they are either asymptomatic or have subtle symptoms they never address. The estimates are that between 50% to 80% of adults in the U.S.A have either HSV-1 or HSV-2.
I don’t think your the asshole … friends joke around she sent you a video and tbh that be how I’d make my friend feel better besides going to the doctor
Info: did she know that you have herpes? If she got it directly from you and you didn’t tell her, you would very much be the AH.
No, you didn’t force her to take the lip gloss, but you did force her to contract herpes if she didn’t know. Herpes can manifest incredibly quickly once exposed, and can easily spread to the genital region. It is painful, and often embarrassing to the people who have it due to the shame society puts on STDs.
YTA
You shouldn’t ever share lip products. Ever. (Or eye products bc you can also introduce disease via eye fluid).
You’re also the AH for joking about it when she was serious. There’s nothing funny about it.
woah hold up, pretty sure OP didn’t give her herpes lmfao! she used her finger to apply a store lipstick and that caused it, OP isn’t at fault here. uncomfortable and shitty situation but not her fault lmfao the friends are just dramatic
unless ofc it was OPs lipgloss and she KNOWINGLY gave it to her friend, then huge YTA especially for joking after
Info: Do you have oral herpes? If so, sharing lipgloss and other makeup is risky, in or out of outbreak.
50%-80% of the adult population in the U.S.A. has one of the two strains of herpes; we don’t know the exact figure because so many people have it without knowing.
While it’s historically been stigmatized, herpes (HSV-1 and HSV-2) are both extremely treatable and you can manage the infection very successfully throughout life without much issue.
Herpes is something you should know about, and be careful with, and you should offer a sincere apology to your friend if you do have either HSV-1 or HSV-2.
I will reserve judgement until you confirm whether or not you have the simplex.
If you gave her the herpes knowingly YTA
Otherwise if it was a coincidence (or you didn’t know you have herpes) then NTA
Don’t share lip products cold sores on your mouth are herpes period.
Do you have herpes? Was it your lip balm or something from the store? If you knowingly have herpes and offered her some of your lip balm YTA. If it was lip balm to “test” at a store NTA, she knew the risks (& if she doesn’t, I worry for her safety)