A friend of mine invited me to spend the evening together because she didn’t want to go alone, once we arrived she immediately started talking to other people and hasn’t interacted with me at all..
After trying to talk to her and engage in a conversation and failing terribly, I started to feel awkward and unnecessary, so I told her I was heading home and left.
She later said that I was rude for leaving early and that I should have tried more to engage in their conversation, I feel bad for leaving them early but I also felt like I wasn’t actually wanted there which leaves me confused if I might have just overreacted
Nta, you tried engaging, felt leftout and left – which is a completly normal thing to do
NTA. I can’t count how many times I got used by people so they didn’t have to walk in somewhere on their own then just dump me. I’m not good at groups of people I don’t know – I struggle with small talk and the like – so it hurts when someone does this to you. Good on you for leaving – that’s what I would do.
NTA. She didn’t want to go alone, but she ended up leaving you alone anyway. She barely spoke to you at the party so you were basically just a buffer.
>once we arrived she immediately started talking to other people and hasn’t interacted with me at all
>I also felt like I wasn’t actually wanted there
She used you as a prop, so she wouldn’t be seen arriving alone.. implying to the other petty people at the party that she wasn’t that socially connected. Pure optics.
Find people in your life that value you, and your time. She’s not your friend.
NTA
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NTA – as someone who has been in this situation, if anything, y’all miscommunicated.
Friend should have been attentive and including you especially if you tried to converse.
In my experiences I’d sit alone for 30 plus minutes alone before they would notice, if not the whole party. I am a hard introvert so I usually avoid this type of stuff unless I’m specifically asked to go.
Take some space and get lunch with friend and explain your side, see how they react, and that tells you what to think. Hear them out, be open to the idea you misunderstood a situation or an unspoken signal (body language, etc). Could be that friend was called out for it after you left and they felt embarrassed for snuffing you and blamed you instead of taking responsibility.
In my experience, the friend is always the AH and makes drama for the sake of drama and self centeredness.
NTA. You didn’t owe her another thing once you got there.
Nope. NTA. She can’t converse with you? Then she can figure things out on her own.
NTA She invited you because she “didn’t want to go alone,” and forgot about you immediately. It was rude to ignore a friend who was trying to talk to her, and it was tacky to berate you for leaving early – it’s not like you had an obligation to stay. Why does your “friend” want you to feel miserable?
NTA That stinks. I don’t usually mind going to events on my own, but when I invite other people, I treat it like we’re there as a unit. She could still have easily mingled with people with you at her side and included in the conversation. She doesn’t sound very socially savvy
That person is NOT your friend. Live and learn.
She’s ruder. She basically invited you as backup.
NTA. You have every right to decide how you spend your time. You don’t have to be an accessory at your friend’s evening out. If this was a one on one situation I would agree that it’s rude to leave early, but it sounds like your friend was having a good time at a party. As long as you’re not her designated driver, there’s no reason for you to stick around. If she needs a wing person, she’s better off picking an extrovert to tag along next time.
NTA. I’m pretty much an introvert when it comes to these kinds of situations. If the person who invited me wanders off to talk to everyone she knows, I end up standing around feeling like an id10t. I hate being put into those situations and tend to beg off on gatherings where I know I don’t know anyone. Did she even try to talk you out of leaving by including you in her conversations or introducing you? I’d have gone home too.