AITA for leaving my band after snapping at them?

So, I (F16) was once part of this small band with other 4 girls (let’s call them T, S, M and T2), we just performed once and disbanded right after. I still miss those days deeply, so when I met this girl (A) who was looking for bandmates I immediately accepted, because she said she knew T. Turns out, she knew T2 and was classmates with S too. M goes to my same school, so I told her everything and promised I’d bring everyone back. Things were going smoothly, I formed a new band with T, T2 and A, but some random girl (R) just decided to barge in suddenly like a stray cat, and that’s where the problems started. You see, our previous band had a song, OUR song; Spring Sunlight. T wrote the lyrics, S made it a song… It was ours. Now, T2 proposed playing this song with our new bandmates as an "original" since A didn’t want to do just cover songs and when R first appeared she saw the sheet and immediately learnt It, so everyone knew the song. I was against this, I told everyone and we all agreed that for our first live, we’d just do another original song, so T2 started composing and I told M about it. I invited her to our live, and I also told her that I wanted to talk with S so we could all be back together.

Fast forward to the day of the live; our first song (the one T2 compose) wasn’t going that well, we weren’t on sync and T couldn’t sing properly. When we finished, T started giving a speech to the audience, telling everyone how our previous band fell appart, how she doesn’t want to suffer something like that again, and that this is the only thing she can do now, because her songs are the cries from her heart. That’s when R, out of nowhere, started playing Spring Sunlight. I didn’t want to, but everyone kept going, so I had no choice but to follow. That’s when I saw S, running away, crying.

After that I lost it; I played until the end and once I got on stage I snapped at them. I calmly asked them "why did we play Spring Sunlight?" and told them S was crying, but T2 said that it has nothing to do with us, so I called her cruel and left.

Some of them tried to contact me and I ignored them, but I talked with S shortly after that, apologized and told her I’d do anything to be part of our previous band again, but she said I only think of myself, and that got me thinking… AITA for snapping at them and wanting to reunite our previous band?

4 thoughts on “AITA for leaving my band after snapping at them?”
  1. Can we do fake names next time rather than letters? Always reads better for me 😆

    T2 can remain tho.

  2. I need more info please,

    Why did original band disband?

    Why would S cry that you were playing “Spring Sunlight”?

    Spring Sunlight was written by T and music was composed by S? So they jointly share the song?

    You said that T gave a impassioned speech after T2 song flopped, then R decided to start playing Spring Sunlight.

    1. Sure,

      1 – S suddenly stopped coming to practice and one day she appeared and announced she was leaving the band. I tried to talk it out and T2 got mad because S was “being irresponsible” and when T asked if she’s really leaving S told her she needs to practice more than anyone. Since M was the only one who didn’t say anything, I told her to speak up, but she said she never thought being part of the band was fun… We disbanded after that

      2 – T wrote the lyrics for Spring Sunlight and shared them with us, and S started making the composition. We all felt it was our song, it was very important for all of us. When our new bandmates started saying we should play it I refused because it was our song, not theirs, so I think that S might’ve felt the same and she may have gotten mad because of it… When I talked with her, she said we could play Spring Sunlight all we wanted, that she has nothing to do with it now, but she was way colder than before.

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