Context : My(20) dad is a massive fan of Nottingham Forest. Became one during his time as a university student, with some of his friends who were locals taking him to games during their free time. I too wanted to study in the UK but am studying in my country instead since I messed up during my IELTS exam.
Now you can easily find the Big Six’s merch in adidas shops in my country. I’ve bought a couple of items from my team. But it’s very difficult to find other clubs’ stuff. So my dad has ordered several items from their official shop over the years. My mom is upset about this, due to the shipping costs and our high import taxes. Eventually she told him no more.
He still secretly ordered some stuff and stashed some of them at my dorm. Hats, scarves and mugs. Mom eventually found one of the new scarves Dad kept at home and confronted him. He told her about the other stuff at my dorm and she got mad at me too. Said he was spending too much and I should’ve told her instead of letting him hide the spending.
Which team did you go for?
ESH. You could have said no and refused to participate in deceiving your mom. You were old enough to say “leave me out of this.” Dad should have never put you in this position to begin with. Mom is understandably upset but should direct most of her anger at her husband.
I do feel for her though. Financial deception would be a dealbreaker for me – especially if you’re so far gone that you’re involving our kid to hide compulsive spending.
You are NTA. However, your dad is for putting you in the situation and your mom is for getting mad at YOU.
NTA their marriage isn’t yours to manage and it’s not your job to lecture your dad. If he hadn’t stored it with you, he would have found someone else.
NTA for letting your dad use your place as a storage unit. Quite frankly though, tell him to get his stuff out & don’t let him do it again. I can’t imagine your mother’s ire is worth it.
Your Dad is kinda T A for buying a shitload of merch he can’t even use/display & hiding it from his wife. Even if he’s using his own money that’s money that could be being used wisely, like for retirement.
NTA. They are adults and their issues are not your concern.
Does he overspends in other areas?
what 😂😂😂 he’s a grown man. Unless he’s a shopping addict he should be aloud to buy some team merch.
NTA, they both need to leave you out of this.
I’m sure they raised you to do what they tell you to and **your mom knows this**.
Dad knew he was putting you in a bad situation and it blew up on both of you.
This may be a good time to respectfully work on setting boundaries.
She can’t blame you for his addiction. But I think it’s fair for her to be upset that you’re supporting him. You need to tell him that you’re not storing these things because you don’t want to lie to your mother about it. If he finds other storage, that’s on him. This issue is for your parents to solve and you should do what you can to remove yourself from it