So i have a bestfriend lets call her A, we knew eacother since our childhood but we got close like 5 months ago. And i have this second bsf lets call her E, we are bestfriends for 3 years. Ofc A and E met and we became a trio by summer. Middle of summer we were having a sleepover. That night A had to change her main accs password and she told us the password too so she wouldnt forget again. Btw i created As priv acc because she couldnt at that time so i was already logged in in her priv acc.
Like a week after the sleepover i got a notification from As priv acc , it was a friend of her talking and kind of making fun of something about E. I got surprised but i didnt really mind at first but messages like that kept coming so i clicked one but the chat was deleted. I told about this to E and she was surprised and suspicious too. So we did something im not very proud of and entered her other account to see if she talked anything about E or me. I know that we didnt respect the boundries and stuff but the messages that we found was bad. She talked behind us both and made fun of me.
We didnt told her anything because what were we supposed to say? Months after that i had sone problems with E and A was always there for me. I was feeling bad about this stiation so i told her the thruth but i didnt told her that we saw she talked bas abt us and i kinda blamde E for it so she was mad at E more. But months later i solved my problems with E and we three became friends again. But no one talked about this and it was just **like forgotten. Even though no one talkes abt it,it still haunts me sometimes.**
Yeah, YTA. You invaded your friend’s privacy. And in the end it didn’t really make a difference, did it? Time to grow up.
Soft YTA, look you’re young and I get the feeling that you truly regret it. Delete her crap and forget about the passwords. If it keeps haunting you, bring it up to both of them and try and talk it out. Things may suck, you three will probably fight again. Logging in to view someone’s private stuff isn’t cool. Neither is talking smack behind a friend’s back. Could be she was venting or maybe she’s a jerk. Get that crap out in the open and maybe you can all move on.
Of course, you could just delete the account information from your devices and forget about the passwords and continue on without addressing it. Whichever works for you and makes you feel okay.
YTA I can understand why you did what you did at the moment, despite your friend talking behing your back invading your friend’s privacy is not right and blaming your other friend was also not right
if it still haunts you it might be better to come clean to your friends and explain everything
if they’re your friends I’m sure they’ll understand, apologize for your mistakes and move on from this
Don’t even need to read the whole thing to reply in good faith with a resounding YTA
Words. If you want the actual adults in this sub to read what you wrote, use actual words. Please and thank you.
ESH. She shouldn’t have been talking badly, you shouldn’t have been snooping. You won’t be able to truly recover a friendship and get over this issue if you don’t all acknowledge what you did wrong.
Of course YTA. You know that