Last night and my sibling (non-binary) were having dinner alone separate from our parents. (We’re both teens) A bit of context is that last week my father bought a family size container of ice cream for us all to share over a few weeks. My father had a single bowl then put it back. A day after it was bought I told my mother I couldn’t find the new ice cream, she didn’t have any either and didn’t know where it was. I asked my father and he hadn’t seen it. My mother and I hadn’t even had a single scoop and my sibling ate the rest in one day.
Flash back to today my father had given playful jabs at my sibling for eating an entire container. They didn’t seem to mind. But then me and my sibling were eating alone and they got a large bowl of ice cream after dinner. I said "Wow, you eat so much ice cream." and expected an insult thrown back or a scoff. But instead they said "I know you’re just trying to make me feel bad about eating" which wasn’t true. Me and my entire family are on the chubbier side but I definitely didn’t shame them for it, I’m chubby too. I got confused at the sudden seriousness of the situation. I was confused and asked what I said. They refused to explain because they were mad and upset. I don’t get social ques so I didn’t understand why the sudden shift in attitude. I explained what happened to my mother and she got mad at me too. So AITA?
NTA if you eat a family-size container of ice cream in a day, you can’t get mad when someone makes a joke about it, and this is coming from a fat guy. It’s also just rude of your sibling to eat a whole container of ice cream that was supposed to last you guys weeks.
NAH, but a family size tub of ice cream should make anyone physically ill that is so much food. Please keep a close eye on your sibling. Binge eating and purging is a very dangerous disorder and eating unbelievably large amounts of food is a key warning sign along with shame that they have done it and cant stop.
I’ll keep an eye out, genuinely thank you for telling me.
If you suspect this, please do some research on how to approach it. Tact is needed
yes, but also adding shame to someone with an eating disorder is more likely to make it worse. Having a conversation about a concern is very different than teasing them about it.
See but they didnt even know this was a warning sign of a potential problem until I told them. Thats literally why they came here to figure out what happened. This is plausible as to why, their father did the same thing without an equal reaction. Im not diagnosing a stranger I have no qualifications for that and clearly neither does OP but obviously they have parents who can then step in if a problem is present. OP cannot act on what they do not know.
You’re NTA. Your sibling is having issues. People sometimes are more comfortable tiptoeing around issues than confronting them directly, especially when they don’t think or know if it’s proper to get involved in the first place. I hope your sib finds a solution before it becomes a legitimate problem. And sorry you missed out. It was probably really good.
**NTA**
Your sibling ate an entire tub of ice cream intended to be shared the day after it was purchased, when multiple other members of the family hadn’t even had a chance to eat any yet. Regardless of it was emotional eating or another food issue, that is unfair.
Perhaps talk to your parents about buying individual smaller containers of ice cream, one for each person. Your sibling gets their own small container, and it is up to them to portion it until the next purchase. Either way, it is your parents who should be addressing this issue, not you.
People’s relationships with food are complex, and when there is an issue, it needs to be acknowledged sooner rather than later. If your sibling cannot stop themselves from eating an entire tub of ice cream overnight, and feels attacked and shamed when it’s pointed out, there is likely something deeper going on.
ESH you should not make multiple jokes about how much people eat and your sibling should feel bad about eating all of the ice cream
It wasn’t a joke, it has no resemblance to a joke. It was a statement of fact and you knew it wouldn’t go over well which is why you were expecting an insult or a scoff. I think you were trying to make them feel bad that they ate it all, not saying they’re necessarily wrong for that it was rude to eat it all when not everybody got some but at the least you need to be honest about what you said. What other motivation would you have had to say it if not to make them feel bad for eating it?
The sibling should feel bad for eating it all
NTA, sounds like sibling shouldn’t have any ice cream if they can’t control themselves.
NTA, especially if theres a refusal to communicate the issue. But it’s also a problem that your sibling is eating a full tub of ice cream. Doesn’t have to be shamed but it should be corrected.
Quick note it’s “flash forward” if you’re referring to present or future.
Honestly you had a right to say something. The kid ate your share and your mom’s share of ice cream. Didn’t compensate anyone, nor apologized then tried to make you look guilty for you not getting ice cream.
YTA Not for what you said but that you missed the trick used to manipulate you. You ended up feeling guilty because your ice cream got stolen.