AITA for mistakenly consuming my coworker’s yoghurt? This is my second day at a new workplace and he is my boss’s boss. We started off pretty cool, even in the interview it was a great vibe. Morning interaction was also very friendly but I thought the yoghurt was the shared stuff by the office (just like milk. My old workplace used to do it).
I am scared because he mentioned it to another person of similar level and that person took me into a room and suggested I apologize, which I did immediately in text and also gonna replace tomorrow. But did I forever ruin the rapport? I feel so stupid.
Why would you assume everything in the fridge is for you to eat?
YTA. Well… yogurt isn’t really considered a “condiment” in America, so I’m at a loss to see why you would think it would be considered shared stuff by the office? It’s not like multiple people can use one little container of it…
YTA for assuming
I think your boss’s boss is your boss, not just your coworker. As far as the yogurt goes, I’d say apologizing and replacing it is enough. As long as it doesn’t happen again he’ll probably just brush it off and move on. If you really wanna go the extra mile maybe you could get him a replacement yogurt and a little something extra as an apology, like a small dessert or candy bar.
eta: NTA
I’ve never heard of communal yogurt lmao. YTA
Yeah YTA obviously. You have spoiled the rapport for now yeah and everyone is probably gonna be talking about the crazy new guy who goes round stealing yoghurt. You got some work to do to come back from this.
YTA for assuming it was fair game. It would not have been hard to just ask someone considering you don’t yet know the nuances of this work place.
But I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Ultimately it is just a yogurt and anyone that is going to hold a grudge over one missing yogurt is being unnecessarily petty and immature. Especially if you apologized and replaced it.
I don’t really think this is AITA material for this sub. You clearly know what you did is wrong and I think your last question is asking advice on if it would ruin your rapport.
I mean to answer this in the context of AITA – yes YTA. Yoghurt isn’t one of those things that are universally shareable. You’re also new to the office so some responsibility lies within you to ask questions for things you don’t know the answer to.
Regarding your question about advice, we can’t answer that cuz neither you nor this sub knows your boss. Initial impressions are important and your boss ATP is like a border agent: they have the discretion to either let it go or paint you as “the food stealer” for the foundation of your career and there’s nothing you can do about it.
I mean you already apologized so there’s no real conflict here. It’s now you just worried about how severe this is. Id just make sure I do what I should be doing at my best.
Exactly how many yogurts were in the fridge, it’s a mistake on your part if there were 30. But if there were 2 you effectively stole someone’s lunch.
I don’t care if your previous office provided snacks it’s a pretty big assumption without finding out first.
Yes, this was entirely your *faux pas*. You can’t just assume things work the same as your old workplace. Even if customs are the same at both workplaces, milk is not the same as yogurt. When I’ve been at new jobs, I definitely check what other people are doing before just taking things. YTA.
I don’t know if you’re an asshole but they’re going to think you have bad judgement for a bit. Replace the yogurt and be careful not to make assumptions for a while.
YTA you can’t just assume….
So you assumed that something was shared based on your old work and how things were there?? YTA for assuming, and next time be an adult and apologize in person – also always ask questions, you might think it’s a stupid one but it saves on the mistakes
YTA. Why are you even asking this,lol.