Me (27F) and fiance (27M) have been together for 8 years and have a 2 year old boy. We were living with family but we have now finally moved into our first house. My partner I would say is quite immature or maybe as he says all the time, I’m just too mature. We’ve been here for 2 months and his best friend has came over for a few times, yesterday at 10pm he called me as he was coming from work to say his friend would be sleeping over on the couch and I said no he’s not and he asked why and I said because I said no, me and my son wake up at 7am, they sleep till later and I need the living room as it’s an open plan kitchen. It’s just awkward and I don’t want it. He started arguing with me, calling me horrible names, saying the house is his so he can do what he wants. He says I’m rude, ungrateful, and he says this is why I don’t have friends… just because he knows I have like 2 friends who also have kids. This friend of his is single and childless like all his other friends.
I then heard him talk bad about me on the phone and I’m really hurt. I cried. My own fiance who should be the person I trust the most is talking bad about me because I didn’t let a friend sleepover.
AITA? Should I had just said yes? Or should he not even need to ask me since the house is also his? Am I too mature? Is it normal for friends to sleep over on the couch?
NTA. Don’t marry him. Leave. This: “calling me horrible names, saying the house is his so he can do what he wants. He says I’m rude, ungrateful, and he says this is why I don’t have friends” is ABUSE. Leave.
Why are you with this man? He doesn’t even like you and he calls you names and is mean when you don’t obey his orders. He doesn’t respect you.
It’s half your living space, and he should be respecting that too,especially with a child. I notice the fiance is out partying with friends instead of doing his share of childcare and house care; then he sleeps in instead of waking with the child. And he expects you to cater to his friend’s sleep rather than everyone rising when the child wakes.
I myself wouldn’t tolerate that behavior and voila, there would be no more fiance. If he adds nothing to your life but tears, kick him out.
NTA