Hi all,
My friend asked me to video tape a counseling session with her for one of her grad school classes. I said no at first because I was uncomfortable with my whole body being in a video, but then she said it’d only be from the chest up and we’d sit at her grandma’s kitchen table.
I agreed since it meant my whole body wouldn’t be visible since it’s an insecurity for me to see it on video. However, yesterday she said it can’t be at a table anymore, and said if that makes me uncomfortable to let her know.
It did make me uncomfortable, so I said no to filming but offered to help any other way I could, even by writing a script for our friend who would film it with her instead. She reacted very negatively to me saying no, and since then, she has basically ghosted me and our other friend yelled at me saying how I betrayed her. So, am I the asshole here? I’ve been trying to help her in the ways I can, but she’s ignored me completely and I feel awful.
NTA. You can have boundaries, and should have them especially in friendships. This is how you know who your friends are- they are the ones who will respect your decisions and choices.
NTA – but if you keep trying to hang out with the two “friends” you are an AH to yourself.
These people are being short sided and not taking you into consideration. Separately if they are going into the medical profession there is no way that they should be allowed to practice if they aren’t understanding consent!
NTA. You were upfront with your boundaries and insecurities. A true friend should respect that.
She shouldn’t counsel anyone if she can’t respect people’s boundaries.
NYA
A counseling session in which she knowingly makes you uncomfortable first?
That’s not how that’s supposed to work.
NTA
NTA. I’m actually in an introduction to counseling course right now and we’ve had 4 practice counseling sessions with a classmate and they make me sooooooooo uncomfortable even though they’re recorded on zoom. I would not do it if I wasn’t being graded